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I contacted my exgf via text message. The other day I noticed she re-activated her facebook account because she was back on my friends list. I couldn't resist checking her wall out, and she posted that her three boys all made honor roll again.
So yesterday I texted her saying I just wanted to say hi and congrats on the boys report cards.
She texted back saying thanks and hoped I was doing well.
So I texted that I missed her and still loved her, but it's something I will just have to deal with and I'll get over it in time.
She replied that she's been sick for several days, thought she felt better, but overdid it and needed to go back to bed. That when she felt better in a day or two she would like to talk to me if I wanted to.
I responded she should take care of herself first. There's always time to talk, and of course I would like to talk to her when she's feeling better.
Yeah, I guess there's still hope on my part. I honestly don't know what she wants to talk about, but I do know it's been hard on her too.
Is she reconsidering? I think the percentages of that are low. Maybe she wants to have a more honest discussion of where and why things went wrong? Since she was the dumpee that probably means telling me some of her negative perceptions of the part I played in the breakup? While that might hurt a bit, I think perhaps I need to know and learn from it.
I know I've done some venting on here about her, but she is really a good person and I am willing to examine my perceptions of the situation and events and weigh them against her observations, if that's what she wants to talk about.
Perhaps it's an opportunity to learn more about myself and grow from that knowledge.
Oh well, the die is cast. Wish me luck, whatever the outcome.
So yesterday I texted her saying I just wanted to say hi and congrats on the boys report cards.
She texted back saying thanks and hoped I was doing well.
So I texted that I missed her and still loved her, but it's something I will just have to deal with and I'll get over it in time.
She replied that she's been sick for several days, thought she felt better, but overdid it and needed to go back to bed. That when she felt better in a day or two she would like to talk to me if I wanted to.
I responded she should take care of herself first. There's always time to talk, and of course I would like to talk to her when she's feeling better.
Yeah, I guess there's still hope on my part. I honestly don't know what she wants to talk about, but I do know it's been hard on her too.
Is she reconsidering? I think the percentages of that are low. Maybe she wants to have a more honest discussion of where and why things went wrong? Since she was the dumpee that probably means telling me some of her negative perceptions of the part I played in the breakup? While that might hurt a bit, I think perhaps I need to know and learn from it.
I know I've done some venting on here about her, but she is really a good person and I am willing to examine my perceptions of the situation and events and weigh them against her observations, if that's what she wants to talk about.
Perhaps it's an opportunity to learn more about myself and grow from that knowledge.
Oh well, the die is cast. Wish me luck, whatever the outcome.
I was up and down throughout the day. Pulled out my Babylon 5 DVDs and went through the first two seasons. I really liked that show when it was on, but there just wasn't much joy watching it now. :(
So 10 PM rolls around and I was dozing off when my cell phone rings. It was my exgf. She was outside my house and wanted me to come outside. Said she had something to give me.
When she got out of her minivan we fell into each others' embrace. It was a very tender and passionate moment. Actually about 5 or 10 minutes...
We went into my house and made up for a couple of hours. It felt exactly like our very first date. The tenderness, passion and intense feeling of rightness.
Afterward we talked a bit. We came to a much better understanding of the feelings and thoughts behind the dustup that led to the breakup. It was also compounded by the fact we were both on our 5th day of quitting smoking. We were both on edge. ;) I think we both understand each other a bit more now.
For my part I have to be much more understanding of the emotional drain being a single mom raising 10 year old triplet boys, one with ADHD has on her. Sometimes she is just emotionally exhausted and only wants to do something light and relaxing like watching TV after the boys are put to bed. I have to understand and respect that.
They can also try her patience and put her into an irratable mood. I have to understand that and not take it personally if on occassion it might overflow onto me.
So we are back together and we're both going to work at understanding each other better and also communicating more openly about our wants or when something is bugging us.
In closing I want to thank everyone here at DS for the kind words and thoughts of compassion and encouragement extended to me! It really helped me get through some of the tougher moments!!
Huge Hugs to all you guys and gals! :)