Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Realizing I dated a psychopath/narcissist........but I still feel pain every day. I binge eat every day to bring me comfort. I don't know how to forget about this person. I just wish I never met him. He lied to me about so many things, but I latched onto him because of my codependency. And in the end he pointed the finger at me and told me I was disgusting and crazy after he asked me to marry him, told me he loved me, etc.
I just feel worthless after his narcissistc abuse and lack of remorse. This was the shortest relationship I have been in (three months)...but I literally feel like my soul has been ripped out. Every day I just feel all of the pain all over again. I have nightmares about him, I wake up in cold sweats....
When will this end?
Has anyone had a similar experience dating a narcissist/psychopath? Who made you feel like everything and then traumatically broke up with you and made you feel completely worthless?
I just don't know how to move on.
I haven't actually thought of suicide but I have had nights were I mixed various things in order to numb myself and knock myself out. Some days it just feels impossible to get out of bed and function normally. I feel like I take one step forward and fifty steps back.....I don't remember who I was before I met him......
I just feel worthless after his narcissistc abuse and lack of remorse. This was the shortest relationship I have been in (three months)...but I literally feel like my soul has been ripped out. Every day I just feel all of the pain all over again. I have nightmares about him, I wake up in cold sweats....
When will this end?
Has anyone had a similar experience dating a narcissist/psychopath? Who made you feel like everything and then traumatically broke up with you and made you feel completely worthless?
I just don't know how to move on.
I haven't actually thought of suicide but I have had nights were I mixed various things in order to numb myself and knock myself out. Some days it just feels impossible to get out of bed and function normally. I feel like I take one step forward and fifty steps back.....I don't remember who I was before I met him......
Second, you really need to get into counseling to deal with your co-dependency. As you said you have only been with this person for three months--you need to understand why you place so much importance on being in a relationship. I say this with love, not to criticize but to show you that you deserve a happy, healthy life where YOU are your best companion.
Sending healing hugs!
And when they get a sniff of vulnerabilty, they run at the chance to use that kind hearted person. Taking and draining their good energy. I've been there, and I understand completely. I've been with one of these abusers for over 25 years. He has done a number on me, but I'm getting better.
I agree counseling is a good idea, but I'm not sure about taking medications. Learning why and how you were a target of such a user will be great, to be able to grow stronger and heal from this experience. It's take time, be kind to yourself and try to focus on your healing. Big hugs to you!