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I cut him out of my life with no warning...

CKae8
CKae8

Two years ago, I cut my best friend out of my life. He'd been my sidekick for 13 years.  We'd been so close. Made promises to always be there for each other. Spent every night just hanging out and doing nothing. That was my favorite thing about us.  Then three years ago, things got different.  Feelings were felt and we bonded on a deeper level. Nothing physical.  The final time we hung out, he acted different. As if he had something to say about his feelings. I got spooked.  I moved away. Then changed my number and tried to forget about him.  Recently, i think about him out of nowhere .  I feel warm in my chest suddenly and almost obsess about whether I should contact him.   I love him differently than I do anyone else.  I'm not in love with him but I feel he needs to know I love him.  We're both in relationships now. I'm very happy in mine and from third party views, he seems happy in his.  Should I simply tell him I still care about him and love him? If something happened to him, I'd forever regret not telling him how I feel.  

Yard_Eggs
Yard_Eggs
Exactly what do you hope to accomplish by telling him?

It is unfair to others to unburden ourselves by given the burden to others.

Consider both the best and worst case situations should you tell him. Are you prepared for either situation?
CKae8
CKae8
That's an excellent point. I was only thinking of lessening my burden of guilt. It would be unfair to unload it and open that door that I closed so long ago.
Ghostwolf04
Ghostwolf04
I don't see any reason to talk to this guy or let him back into your life. Unless what you feel is guilt. I suppose you could contact him and apologize for acting like a dick? But don't tell him you love him. That will just make you sound selfish and foolish, or like you're playing an angle. If you are going to continue to obsessed over this, then ask his forgiveness and sincerely apologise for what you did, without rekindling any old flames, and move on with your life.
sherril2291
sherril2291
My thoughts are that I think it would be okay to reach out to him and tell him you're sorry for breaking ties like you did. I don't think there's anything at all wrong with letting him know that your friendship means a lot to you and you now regret how things ended. In this way, you're not trying to interfere with his or your current relationships, but you are allowing closure on what must have been a confusing change of events for him. There is nothing wrong with setting the record straight and remaining friends.
Snipsnipe
Snipsnipe
you choose to cut the ties, he seems happy, what are going do accomplish by contacting him;

-make him happier
-rock his boat
-make yourself feel better

be a a good friend now, live with it
Biatta
Biatta
It was mean to break the ties the way you did. I can imagine how painful was that for him after you both were friends for so long. I do think you should call him and apologize...you never know if his wounds had healed completely. You should learn to be a better friend.