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mjc522 09/12/2017

So I live in Plano Texas. And I'm sure that some have heard about the shooting last night on the news. I was at work today and a friend texted me and told me that my ex girlfriend was friends with the girl who threw the party that got shot up and asked if my ex was involved and if she was ok. Up to this point all I had heard was that there was a mass shooting at a house on the other side of town. So I start to freak out and text my ex to see if she was ok. Turns out that she was there when it happened and ran out the back but saw a couple of her friends get shot and one of her friends is in ICU. My ex is ok. She called me after I texted her and told me what happened and you could tell in her voice that she is still really shaken up. My friends tell me that I have a savior complex. I want so bad to comfort her and make her feel better. But we've been broken up for about four months now and I'm finally starting to get over her and I haven't talked to her in a couple months. What should I do?

kornboy85 09/12/2017

If you have gotten over her then there is nothing to worry about. You do care about her which is nothing wrong. Obviously you don't wish any ill will towards her. There is nothing wrong for you to be an ear if she wants to talk about what happened. It is a traumatic thing for a person to go through even after witnessing her friend get shot. There is nothing wrong to check in on her to see how she is coping every once and a while. If she wants to meet and talk to you about it, then that is up to your decision. You can still be ok for you two to still be broken up and for you to comfort her. She may need someone to talk to.

mjc522 09/12/2017

The thing is though, I'm not completely over her. I've just gotten to the point where it doesn't hurt whenever I think about her. And talking to her has made me start missing her.

sleepless1 09/12/2017

Does she have another support system? Her mom, siblings or other close friends? If so, let her go to them. Maybe you are just a genuinely nice guy, but take a look at your motives.

Lenoire 09/12/2017

I'm not anywhere near Texas, so no, I haven't heard of the shooting.

If you still have feelings for her, it may be time to face the music and realize this. If she's your ex, she's an ex for a reason, and writing down these reasons and pasting it to your fridge, can help you every time you get the crazy notion.

Wishing you well.

Misred 09/12/2017

You did what any normal human being would do considering the circumstances, however it is too soon to have further contact right now. You let her know you were worried and care, and that is enough for now.

I don't know you at all, but your friends brought up something you may want to search out. You may want to look into codependency.

Glad your EX is okay

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