Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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idontmakeherhapyenuf 12/07/2015

There are times when the pain it really rough... Almost suffocating. Those time find me praying for peace of mind. Then, oddly, there are times when I am working hard, or texting my wife about things needing to be done for the kids and it hits me I had completely forgotten the reality of my marriage. That causes the avalanche of pain all over again. I don't know if it is better to struggle with the situation minute to minute or find release only to feel that rush of traumatic realization. So exhausting.

sakuraowl 12/08/2015

I had these feelings you are going through early on, it's been only 4 months for me, not sure when this happened to you but I look back now and realize that I was in shock, it's almost like a denial in your mind to protect you from all the hurt that comes along with this, I have read everywhere there are stages, shock, anger , despair ect .... There is no telling how long each step will last or how often they repeat themselves.
I think the shock is worse, when your mind tells you everything seems normal and then the realization comes that it is not. Feeling the great pain that comes from this is nessesary so I feel that these mixed feelings are worse. You just have to take it easy and get through day by day . Eventually this trauma will work itself through, till then take care of yourself.

idontmakeherhapyenuf 12/08/2015

Thanks for your insight. Today has been more pain less robotic. It is so exhausting and there's no light at the end of the tunnel to keep walking towards. My mind makes this worse by constantly going through scenarios both real and imagined in my head. I would love to turn that part off for a whole but that crashing reality is so brutal.

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