parts of solitude are sad - like in times of trouble - others are great. do what you want, when you want, no negotiating/compromising/building mutual resentments. and free to do what you love.

Why can't you imagine anything else? Is it just painful, or do you have a special reason?

This is actually a good thing, believe it not.

One of the ways you can tell that you have found some sort of healing is the realization that you can be alone for the rest of your life, and that's okay.

You are much more likely to move into another relationship in the future as a whole person who is looking to compliment someone rather than complete someone else if you can get to the "alone is okay" stage.

Well, it's good that you have come to realize that you'd be okay being alone, but don't let THAT mean that you necessarily WANT/NEED to be!

Enjoy your days of peace and quiet, but don't neglect to be aware of the possibilities of a better future with someone else!

Best of luck with whatever you decide!

I had to come to this realization before I left my husband.....that I would rather be alone than continue to be lied to. I had to allow myself to think that if I let him go, I may never find anyone else. I don't want to be alone, but I know the life I was living was much worse than loneliness.

I am where you are.. It is the reality of my being older and living in an isolated area.. I am sad about that at times, just because I truly love men and miss holding hands or a hug, but I will live and be content with my life as it happens. I think that I am blessed in so many ways in having life and having a choice, and especially in having my ds family.......Best to you, Kimmee