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I can't get over it

Tmb
Tmb

Hello again having another bad day everything I do i cant get him out my mind spirit soul. He clearly states that he doesn't want counselling nothing but I want us to fix this so bad he is having relations with other females and I still want him I don't know what to do I don't talk to him I'm a mess I talk to him I'm a mess I'm so lonely know what I have to do just can't let go please help me 


Swimgrl
Swimgrl
I hear you. You got to start focusing on what makes you happy, do u have family/friends u can talk to. I feel like I want my husband back just so that my pain will go away but if u got him back could u forgive him for all the things he is doing now that hurt you or all the things he did in the past?
maybe2late
maybe2late
Don't go back. If he has other women you're 100% done.

Instead try to improve yourself. Try to get into a good place as a single person. If you can do that you may find a better love in the future.
SuZQ
SuZQ
So sorry you are going through this pain! It is devastating when we find out the one who is supposed to love us forever is not willing to work on our marriages. Leslie Vernick's books on marriage and relationships helped me to understand how to act "right" when my ex- was acting "wrong". I would encourage you to check them out. Also, exercise, Christian counseling, eating right, talking to wise friends, and allowing myself to grieve helped. Please, keep reaching out. Praying for you today!
ThisTooShallPass74
ThisTooShallPass74
My situation is similar in some ways to yours. My soon-to-be ex-husband was cheating on me but we had been together for 18 years and I took my marriage vows seriously. I tried everything to "make it work" but in the end he didn't want to do the hard work it takes to have a meaningful relationship. If one party is not 100% committed to the relationship then it's not going to work. It's hard and everyday I mourn the loss of my marriage, the plans we had for the near future, what the relationship "could have been", and the list goes on and on. But do I miss my husband?? Not really...there were times he was the person I fell in love with and the person I know he COULD be if he chose to be but looking back those times were few and far between. He chose to be less than he could fully be. I know that I will actually be better off without him but I have to get through this sucky part first. I am at the very beginning of a very long journey, but I'm trying to keep looking forward and concentrate on the good stuff that is happening (although many days it feels like nothing good will ever happen again). Look into yourself and discover what makes you awesome. Embrace your uniqueness and become a stronger person despite this nastiness. Hang in there...