You are going to go through the five stages of grief. Just as dealing with death. Only death of a relationship is sometimes harder. You're are dealing with a living ghost. It's left foot right foot breathe one minute at a time. Just know that when it physically hurts you feel sick and you're losing your mind remember you will get past that and you will survive. And above all don't try to make it better but by grabbing someone new right off the bat that never ends well for them they fall in love and you look at them one day a realize you feel less than nothing for them. Give your self time, allow yourself to feel every emotion. One day you will wake up and know you're ok and are ready

Congratulations on making the first step toward the rest of your life. I know that it was a tough decision; it was for me. It will hurt and you will go through a lot of different emotions.

What I found that worked the best for me was writing down in a journal all of the feelings and emotions that I was experiencing. As time went by, I wrote in it less and less. You can also use it as a gauge when you go back and read it at times to see just how far you have come.

Do you have a hobby or something else that you have always wanted to do? Do you have a local church family and/or Pastor you can turn to? Or local support group?

Keeping busy as I went through the healing process helped me get through it. Have you thought of volunteering somewhere that you have a passion for? (Humane Society, Red Cross, etc.) I found when I volunteered and I was helping others, I was also in turn helping myself more.

It will take time and everyday that passes is one day closer to your healing and the beginning of your new life. Stay strong and I know you will make it!

I'm so sorry for the hurt you're feeling....Hugs. Every situation is different & without details it's hard to know how to advise, but one piece of advice is universal; take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, try to eat healthy, get outside for fresh air/walks. Confide in a trusted friend or family member for emotional support. Seek outside help from a counselor or your local church to help in healing. If at all possible, explore counseling together. Find ways to serve...it really does help to take the focus of our emotions off ourselves. Yes, one day at a time. Best wishes to you.

I'm not going to leave you any advice, just thought I'd let you know you're not the only one. I just recently left my wife. 28 years we were together. It's tough on the outside. I got new job waaaaay far away, and now it's like I'm alone in the world. I know everyone is mad because I left, but I was dying in that relationship. I loved my wife, I guess, but I was empty. The prospect of starting over seemed like a good idea. It's too early to tell yet, and there's no going back, so might as well forge ahead. We made decisions that aren't easy, and sometimes we hurt others in the process. And now we have to find strength within ourselves to rebuild. Maybe that's the crux of it. We're used to working out problems with others, and now you have to do it alone. Maybe it's like training a new muscle, or one you haven't used in a really long time. It takes time and work. Good luck.