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I am f***ing done

Jgarc
Jgarc
Many of you will judge me by this post but I wanted to say goodbye because I am done feeling sad feeling miserable feeling like I was never worth anything. today I feel like I want to end my life because every part of me is dead. I gave this man every part of me, every part of my soul, every part of my body because he was my husband he was my soulmate and at the end of the day he betrayed he hurt me he killed me inside. There will never be another person that I will love the same way I loved him so what is the point of living if I will never get to experience a love like that once again. There is no point in being alive with the feeling of when you loved the one person, you trusted backstabbed you in every way possible.I have prayed to God to guide me but at the end of the day I don't feel like he does this because he wouldn't allow this to happen to me. He doesn't exist but I don't care anymore only want to do is disappear from this world feel no pain. He has confessed to meeting other woman living with the sharing intimate moments with them like if I never existed.Thank you to all of you who have provided t support and I don't want you to think that your words meant nothing they help me get through the day but at the end it's not enough nothing. I don't want to be alive anymoreThe pain that I feel is not worth it nothing is going to get better no one will want me with Baggege, i I will End up alone. I had a chance of love that it wasn't for me I am meant to live alone to die alone that is why I am choosing to end it here I don't want to live anymore
AaronSG
AaronSG
You might not believe this right now, due to the amount of pain and suffering your going through, but before you go off and do something to yourself that you might regret for the rest of your life, please know that your not alone! Please know that some if not most of the people within this on-line support group have been right where your at, myself included. But please I won;t trouble you with my supporting evidence as to what I've been through, as to show you that I know what your going through, we'll save that for later. But in the mean time I want to provide you a web link to the Nation Suicide Prevention Hotline.......

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

They have a couple phone numbers there, I want you to look those numbers up and give them call A.S.A.P.! Just call them, what do you have to lose, your life is more important than any problem you facing, the problem isn't important, you are!

Make that call (((NOW)))!

Then later check back in with us, let us know what happened and how your doing!
Missy73
Missy73
Aaron is right. You are not alone. Many of us here have felt the same way. I can't tell you how many times I prayed for death so that the pain would end. Although I didn't believe it at the time, things did get better. They will get better for you too. You just have to hang on a little longer.
hpnote
hpnote
I agree you should call the number immediately.

It may not feel like it, but this is not the last time you will fall in and out of love. The process of divorce is kind of like a death in it's self. I am going through my second divorce and even though I am not ready to love someone else yet, I this has happened to me before and I expect I will fall in love again at the right time.

My husband cheated on me too. At first it was hard to understand why, but later I stopped blaming myself and realized it was his problem. I was perfectly okay the way I was. I gave everything to him too, but in the end I found out that he was a manipulative liar. Please don't feel you are alone in this. We are all here to support each other.
timbob463
timbob463
No one here is going to judge you for how you feel. We have all been where you are right now. The Bible calls divorce the "ripping apart of one flesh", the one flesh you became when you married each other, and nothing ever rips perfectly even. The betrayal of someone you put your every ounce of trust in is a very hard thing to handle on your own. I pray that you find help from the numbers that Aaron gave you. It isn't going to cost you anything to call one of them. As for God, I know you don't believe it, or want to hear it, but he does exist. He is in the heart of every person on this forum, every person that answers the phone to help you, and in every small miracle that is happening every day, to people just like you and I, even when we don't see them. Please call the numbers and find that miracle that God has waiting for you.
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
I think most of us here can relate to your despair. Believe me I had those thoughts too. Betrayal is a mother to overcome. But it does get better. If you are really feeling that you're going to hurt yourself call those numbers or 911. Get help. Because you will not feel this bad forever and once you're dead you don't get relief, you get nothing at all. There is relief available to you, please don't do something that will not solve anything.
Blueforu
Blueforu
I just joined this site, your post the first Ive read...I hope YOUR ok, and return here.
NOTHING in life is worth giving up your life, you will move past this and come out in a better spot in the end, with or without him, I promise. Your so young, you have so much ahead of you. They say everything in life happens for a reason, honey it does. Something better is out there waiting for you. Its not YOU that's worthless, its he with the insecurities. You deserve better and will find it, if you give yourself the chance.
Im 54, my husband, my world for 26 years cheated on me when I was 48. I have a severely disabled daughter, my world crashed, I felt all you describe. HE tried to commit suicide after I found out. It was a very rough month, but once I was able to think with a clearer mind, I realized where the problem was. It wasn't me, it was he.
We're still "married" in the word sense only, mainly because of our daughter, but I came out on top. He can no longer hurt me. I forced myself back into life. I found friends, while I had a problem with trust male/female, I soon learned the damage my husband was doing to me. I met one special friend, who happens to man a suicide hotline ( not how we met ) I don't know why I let my guard down with him...he made it easy. He talked me back to life and made me see I was capable of being loved. While I still have the "husband" dilemma I found pure love in a complete stranger. The right people will be put in your life, to help you see though, be willing to except them.
neverceases
neverceases
27 is way too young to give up on life.

Please seek help. It will get better. I was married for 27 before I got divorced. My ex cheated on me as well. He is living with the other woman now. That took a little while to get used to but I realize I'm better off without him now. I've been divorced since January 2014 and I have a lot of hope that is someone out there worth loving again that will be better than my ex. Someone who will love, respect and cherish me and I'm a lot older than you.

I have faith there is someone out there for you. You just have to heal but that will happen with time.

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panther99
panther99
Don't give up!! The miracle and joy of life is that you never know when you may wake up and see things with a whole new and fresh perspective. I thought my breakup was the loss of the most amazing human being I ever had the privilage to know..I was wrecked. I've been suffering through the grief, just like most on here, but you know what? I'm starting to feel better! Plus, I don't see him the same way. He was a sad man who was victim to his uncontrollable impulses..and he lost me, because of it. He wasn't THAT great at all. I'm a good person and so are you..your ex doesn't deserve to have that much power over your happiness. PLEASE call the number.
Get counseling to help you work through your emotions..I can guarantee that you won't regret not ending your life. There is help.
I'm sending you healing loving thoughts right now.
yougospam
yougospam
Please read everyone's responses. It is a horrible time of life, I get it. I have had those kind of thoughts myself at the beginning. My husband walked out in Feb. and I truly felt what you feel now. I do, we all do. Just hang on and get thru the day! Get help, seek counseling, talk to loved ones, do whatever it takes to just get thru one day, today........I loved my husband with all of my heart and soul and it almost killed me when he left. I still struggle almost every day BUT the pain has lessoned. I promise you that you can make it, if I can, YOU CAN!!!! Don't give up, you don't have to be ok today or tomorrow, but one day you will be ok, I promise....Sending you hugs and prayers!!!!!