Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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Well, I'm back.
Everything seemed so much better for a while- I really thought there was hope.
My husband, once addicted to oxy, is now on meth (at least according to a home drug test, which he swears up and down is wrong.)
He's blown through all our savings and then some. I wouldn't be surprised if he's taken out a second mortgage on our home, at this point. He's gotten loans in my name, he's always wigged out, he's suddenly a sex maniac. We have about 15 security cameras installed all around the house- it's madness. I can't live like this.
The worst part is, I smoked pot a few days ago. He was all too encouraging about it, which should have been my first sign- he's doing something worse! Now this drug that he assured me is "just fine" and "not a problem at all" is being held against me- he says if I take the kids and bring up his meth use that he'll test negative and I'll come up positive (as it stays in your system longer) - and he'll take the kids.
Smoking pot was the worst mistake I've ever made, and I had no idea what the consequences could be. I didn't realize people actually lost custody of their kids because of it, much less to meth addicts.
I'll never smoke again. I'm clean now and waiting for it to get out of my system. I think I'll have to stay with him until then- I'm so scared of losing these kids.
And I love him- so much. I just can't believe this has happened. I never would have imagined leaving him, but I can't keep my kids around this.
I keep thinking of my aunt, the first woman in our family to get divorced. She committed suicide just last month. Her life sucked after divorce. She went from having a nice home and kids who loved her to working minimum wage and her daughter getting emancipated- she hated her that much.
I can't believe I could be losing everything- my home, my husband, and who knows what else.
Everything seemed so much better for a while- I really thought there was hope.
My husband, once addicted to oxy, is now on meth (at least according to a home drug test, which he swears up and down is wrong.)
He's blown through all our savings and then some. I wouldn't be surprised if he's taken out a second mortgage on our home, at this point. He's gotten loans in my name, he's always wigged out, he's suddenly a sex maniac. We have about 15 security cameras installed all around the house- it's madness. I can't live like this.
The worst part is, I smoked pot a few days ago. He was all too encouraging about it, which should have been my first sign- he's doing something worse! Now this drug that he assured me is "just fine" and "not a problem at all" is being held against me- he says if I take the kids and bring up his meth use that he'll test negative and I'll come up positive (as it stays in your system longer) - and he'll take the kids.
Smoking pot was the worst mistake I've ever made, and I had no idea what the consequences could be. I didn't realize people actually lost custody of their kids because of it, much less to meth addicts.
I'll never smoke again. I'm clean now and waiting for it to get out of my system. I think I'll have to stay with him until then- I'm so scared of losing these kids.
And I love him- so much. I just can't believe this has happened. I never would have imagined leaving him, but I can't keep my kids around this.
I keep thinking of my aunt, the first woman in our family to get divorced. She committed suicide just last month. Her life sucked after divorce. She went from having a nice home and kids who loved her to working minimum wage and her daughter getting emancipated- she hated her that much.
I can't believe I could be losing everything- my home, my husband, and who knows what else.
Meth is a really fucked up drug. I used to do it. It is awful. Pot I smoke on the regular and never have any ill effects, they are definitely very different. Son't beat yourself up for smoking a little weed, that shit is harmless, especially compared to meth which is srsly the devil.
I understand you are fearful of leaving your husband and life after divorce. But if your husband is a meth addict you may be better off without him. The kids will be safer too. You always hear this horrible meth child abuse stories, it's not healthy for kids to be around that.
Life after divorce will be different, but think hopefully, it might be better for you. At least you will be free from this guy who is sucking you dry and threatening you. What a jerk.
My aunt went through a very difficult divorce and now lives in a small house instead of the big house they used to have, but she is happier now. I know the people on this board who have been through divorces can give you advice about that. Your life will change, but it will probably be better.
I agree with Andrea about your hubs, too...what a complete ass to threaten you with taking custody of the kids!
I am five months into my divorce process and I am beginning to see that it won't be the end of my world. You will get to that place, too.
The main thing is getting you and your kids away from your husband.
I fell into a trap yesterday- his mother came to me, saying she knew how hard things had been and wanted to talk to me- that she knew how "exasperating" her son was, and wanted to be of help.
I told her about the test, and she immediately denied any possibility. The conversation shifted immediately to everything I've done wrong- that he feels like I "don't like him", and that she feels that I don't like her. I told her I didn't see how that would affect the test.
Should have seen that one coming. I tested myself and the pot's still in my system. I''ve always seemed to take a long time to flush it out. I remember in HS it took me over a month and I was not a regular user. Just one of the lucky ones, I guess.
Anyway, thanks again.
source: https://www.drugrehab.com/addiction/drugs/crystal-meth/how-long-does-meth-stay-in-your-system/
so you do have a weapon at your disposal to get your kids out of that atmosphere.