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Ive seen signs of infidelity for a while now...but a threshold was reached last night. Husband informed me that HE needed "TIME TO HIMSELF"...NEXT MONTH....FOR ABOUT 30 DAYS, or so!
Trust me, I didn't just fall off the turnip truck last night! And, Oh, YEAH, how can I forget this...he sprung that one on me 30 minutes BEFORE the arrival of a Roofing Company he arranged to meet with US.
Its been bad from the start of our marriage, even thou BOTH of us agreed we would/could make it work, inspite of our 12 year age difference.
We've been together for approx. 30 YEARS....been married for 20. And HE NOW decides he wants " TIME TO HIMSELF?
LAST WEEK, he informed me that he "has been" talking to a COUNSELOR(female, of course). Yeah, RIGHT! I asked who & what was her name, where's he office located, etc. (just for the heck of it) and he stood there looking like the FOOL HE IS, and couldn't/didn't say anything....just starring at me.
TODAY, I THINK I have found info that he has either arranged or inquired on a CRUISE....as the info. stated his ACCOUNT of OVER $3000.00 for this cruise, has been set up.
I've been thru SO much with him over the many years that I don't know even what or how to FEEL. I KNOW I'm HURT,ANGRY AND TIRED OF THIS MESS...its been one ordeal after another BUT THIS ONE tops it all.
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I had gone to the grocery store. When I wheeled my cartback to my car I just stool there a minute. A few spacesaway a Tesla Cyber truck was parked. I had seen it on theroad a few times for a few seconds. But not close up.It looked like it belonged to 2126 and not 2026. I wasgoing to take a picture of the car but the owners cameback and drove away. It was an ordinary middle age...
It's the belief that since we have invested so much time, money, resources, love that we believe if we just continue to keep dumping more of this into a person or situation, one day we will hit the jackpot and get what we deserve - respect, love, happiness...etc.
What we don't realize is that the longer we invest into a bad situation/or person , the more we will be GUARANTEED TO LOSE.
Our investment is still a "insert here" - drunk, abuser, liar, cruel, neglectful, behavior issues, cheater...and the list goes on.
When you invest your time and love towards these people, they have no reason to change. It's better to cut your losses, invest in yourself and attract healthier relationships/life situations.
You deserve to be hurt, angry, pissed! You have overlooked so much stuff...and now he's cheating. You don't deserve that.
I would get a good counselor, financially protect yourself, and decided where you want to draw the line in the sand. It's time to think of what's best for you.
The pain of betrayal, on top of all the other emotional issues he's probably caused you is very difficult. So I completely empathize with you. I would not wish that on anyone. I avoided all decisions that would make me take a stand for myself, until the cheating happened and it forced me to finally stand up for what I thought I deserved.
Sending you light and love! You deserve happiness.
Last night, he drank Wine. Something hes very rarely done. Today, he asked me if I would like to go to a sushi bar with him. ALSO, something he's never been known to eat. I don't like shui NOR did I want to look at HIM today. He had the nerve to say, "I needed to broaden my views and TRY other things".
YES, his new friend is coaching HIM on her likes, and he's so ignorant about THOSE Lind of things, he wants to TRY them BEFORE getting with her...i suppose the CRUISE he/they are secretly planning will have ALL of this and I'm supposed to be his "Test Dummie"?
YES, I'm gonna get a lawyer, and hopefully one that will clean his DAMN clock.
I am NOT going to do this HIS wsy.