I'm sorry you are going through this. I woke up this AM depressed but husband and I are still together. I dread what you are experiencing now. Stay strong.

I'm sorry

did he say why he was leaving or why he was unhappy

@redroses he says that it's bc he would work 10 long hours come home and cook and was not rewarded..Meaning sexually. I would be at home with a baby all day cleaning and washing, I wasn't the only tired..He was too. Petty arguments & financial. We tried to get a house & was denied BC he had a tax lien on his credit that came on while we were trying to get the house. That definitely added in frustration. He says it was 20 yrs worth of stuff. Honestly, I was not completely happy either but would have worked it out for the sake of our family. We have 3 children together. We agreed not to put our 2 yr old in school until he turned 3 & could clearly talk. I was not working a job but have my own small crochet business where I make a little money. He pays the bills & allows me to save up the small amount of money that I make & if I can..Help him out with gas & food..I was & will be registering for school to be a psychologist then he will be going to school to be a lawyer. Even though my mind & heart is shattered I am still going to school to accomplish my goal.

I'm sorry, I am sure this is tough for you. I am in a similar situation but my husband said he was moving out 4 months ago and is still here. I know it is hard that he left but sometimes I think it is hard if they don't leave. Over the past for months he has been so nasty to me on and off, then ignoring me and one day will talk to me and the next day he wont.....it is an emotional rollercoaster and terrible to see your spouse treat you like this.....not to mention very bad for the kids to see this....just tonight my 10 year old said Mom needs better because he was acting like an ass to the kids. It is good you are going to keep your goal and just try to stay strong and reach out to friends/family for their support as well as this site. I'm sorry you have to go through this too!

It takes two. I have heard that all my life.
Give yourself a break. Relationships are one of the hardest things we will ever get involved with.
Maybe a break from one another will give each of you a chance to reflect on what you have.
Reflection is good but don't lay all the blame on you.
I am a guy, I know all to well how much emphasis we put on sex. But to be honest its one of the ways we express ourselves. But with the toils of life we forget to do the other things. But I don't think taking someone for granted is a gender thing.
I would focus on the things at hand, kids and keeping up with yourself.
There really is no one good answer, only to know that all couples hit hard times. I tend to lean on my maker, and it seems to help. I hope you will find peace today.

This is tough. I am sorry to hear that this has happened. Of course things are going to be difficult. You (and he) have invested many years into the relationship. You have 3 kids together. There is bound to be some grief and feelings of loss. If you would like to call 855-382-5433, Focus on the Family can provide a free phone consultation with a licensed counselor. Prayers headed your way.

LearningwhoIam....this is all too familiar for me as well. We do not have children but he came at me just like yours did. Like being run over by a bus back and forth numerous times. This is such a difficult time - I truly know what you mean right now. Lean on close friends and family you need it right now, and only time will tell what happens from here. Sending big hugs your way for sure.