Teenie, glad to hear you ended that abusive relationship. That kind is not right for anyone. Sounds like you have a good church too. Is there any singles group for you to join? You might need to talk to someone, you have alot going on, very emotional situation. Keep busy and far away from mr abusive. I know how they talk so big and then never follow through with how changed they said they will be.

All the best!

I know it hurts when the ex moves on quickly, even whne you know it was the right thing to do to end teh relationship. It hurts because you have history and had a life and while you grieve that, he doesn't - thats a smack for sure. But look forward to your positive new life and all the good things that will coem of this - no more abuse, freedom, etc. Take care.

So glad for you to get out of a abusive relationship, I could never understand why or how someone could strike someone they care and love so much, no one deserves that.
We can't move on so quickly cause we care, folks that can move on are really worse then we are. ( I feel), and they don't care.
I'm 8 months deep and still struggle with emotions, I am not even close to having a relationship with someone, I need to find my happy place first.

I too just got out of an (emotionally) abusive relationship. He started flirting and talking to other girls while we were still trying to work it out, which I found out 2 months after. I called it quits and a couple days later he has a new girlfriend (we dated for 2.5 years). I completely understand how hard it is to see the person you loved with someone else. He says he would drop her in a minute if I wanted him back (pathetic right!?). I knew that he was not right for me and although seeing him with someone so soon after was very painful it only confirmed that I had made the right choice. We shouldn't have to worry about the person we are with running off to someone else as soon as the going gets tough. It still hurts to know how quickly he moved on, but I know that he is just using this new girl to mask his feelings and hurt. In the end he will end up more hurt because he did not deal with the break up. It still does bother me because he meant a lot to me and we built a relationship together, but ultimately he was not the one for me.
It takes time to heal from the emotional roller coaster you've probably been on. Its been 5 months for me and it is slowly getting better. It will just take time and work, in the meantime lean on people who are close to you and keep yourself busy. Someday you will find someone who appreciates and supports you and will not hurt you. I wish you all the best and stay strong!

Sleeping around doesn't mean that he isn't feeling anything. In fact, he could be sleeping around to avoid the feelings that everyone feels after a break up.

It sounds to me like you are the strong one. It doesn't take any effort to sleep around, but it takes courage to take control of your life and leave an abusive relationship.