Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I was here a while ago. Most said to leave her and be done...yeah I'm dumb.
We looked at houses and 3 days later we broke up. I asked her to come to a wedding and my moms birthday. She never asked for off. Her son was going to CO for 2 weeks. I said I could the second week. She booked the first. Finally, I asked her to take me to the airport. She told me to have my daughter. I told her she was being selfish. She said never speak to her again.
3 months later with her stuff in my house. She texted me to get it. Was touched because I left her a care package. She said we had too many disagreements. Than she wanted to talk. She told me she is seeing someone. I told her wish her the best and asked if I meant it. I said no. She said it was only dinner not engaged....than sent pictures of her halloween costume.
Than I lost it and sent some sappy stuff. She said her heart was being torn to pieces. Than wrote that she was too selfish to be with a kind soul like me. She was supposed to come to therapy.
I wrote a letter ...all in..promises and everything (which I keep). Asking for one more chance. Nothing. Others have read it and are touched. She bailed on thearpy. So I told her to get her stuff and that I was deleting, blocking everything. I did.
So how do I let go. I see her in my mind. Hear her words that I crushed her joy. Her seeing someone. Part of me wants her back but it's not healthy. I can't constantly cry
My therapist says she is a narcissist or has those qualities. I'm empathic.
Any advice? I want to crush hope that she will return. As long as I have hope I can't move on.
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I had gone to the grocery store. When I wheeled my cartback to my car I just stool there a minute. A few spacesaway a Tesla Cyber truck was parked. I had seen it on theroad a few times for a few seconds. But not close up.It looked like it belonged to 2126 and not 2026. I wasgoing to take a picture of the car but the owners cameback and drove away. It was an ordinary middle age...

She texted me and I broke down and texted back. She finally said she doesn't love me.
Why hurt yourself and continue the pain? You feelings and heart will pull at you until you allow yourself to the time to heal. You will keep hurting yourself by engaging with her.
Give yourself the time to heal, focus on yourself and your goals.
Every time you think about her write it down, write a positive and a negative about her. You will learn to think of her like you think about the mailman.
She is only going to hurt you more if you let her.
What are your goals in life?