Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
To all who have been here before.....
I seem to be in a rut. Its been 2 years since my breakup and although for the most part Im over it, but there is still that little thing that seems to be holding me back. As much as I've moved on, I still cant help but having serious feelings every time he pops into my head. I think of how much we loved each other and how great of a relationship we had, and how I had never felt that way. I just cant seem to think of him without all the feelings. When I think of my ex husband, I can think about him and the memories we had and feel not one ounce of regret or love.
Ive dated, but not much. It seems like one or two dates with someone and Im not interested any longer. Im a bit worried that either I keep thinking of my ex because I cant find anyone to replace him or that I cant find anyone because I still have some deep feelings for him.
Dont get me wrong, there are pieces of being single I absolutely love and would hate to give up for a relationship, but Im a bit concerned that maybe there just may not be another love out there for me.
How do you get past the feelings? Do I look at pictures of him and his new girlfriend until it no longer affects me? I just dont know. How did you do it.
I know I need to not worry about relationships and work on myself, but sometimes it gets a bit lonely and would be nice to have male companionship, and Im just not willing to just go out with someone because Im feeling a bit lonely. I do have standards for myself.
Anyway, thanks in advance.
I seem to be in a rut. Its been 2 years since my breakup and although for the most part Im over it, but there is still that little thing that seems to be holding me back. As much as I've moved on, I still cant help but having serious feelings every time he pops into my head. I think of how much we loved each other and how great of a relationship we had, and how I had never felt that way. I just cant seem to think of him without all the feelings. When I think of my ex husband, I can think about him and the memories we had and feel not one ounce of regret or love.
Ive dated, but not much. It seems like one or two dates with someone and Im not interested any longer. Im a bit worried that either I keep thinking of my ex because I cant find anyone to replace him or that I cant find anyone because I still have some deep feelings for him.
Dont get me wrong, there are pieces of being single I absolutely love and would hate to give up for a relationship, but Im a bit concerned that maybe there just may not be another love out there for me.
How do you get past the feelings? Do I look at pictures of him and his new girlfriend until it no longer affects me? I just dont know. How did you do it.
I know I need to not worry about relationships and work on myself, but sometimes it gets a bit lonely and would be nice to have male companionship, and Im just not willing to just go out with someone because Im feeling a bit lonely. I do have standards for myself.
Anyway, thanks in advance.
I also go on lots of 1st and 2nd dates, and rarely let anyone in, but I think in my case it is more a situation of I am looking for specific characteristics, and if the guy doesn't have all of them, I friend zone them. I have let two guys in since the guy who messed with my head, one was short term relationship, that lasted 7 months, and just wasn't going to work (he was a mama's boy and I couldn't deal with that), the other was a guy I really, really liked (the first I felt a connection with since the abusive guy), and I was his rebound, and in some ways, it was more devastating than the 2nd relationship I had (the 7 month one). I really, really wanted things to work out, and was so cautious about letting him in.
Don't force yourself to date. There is nothing wrong with you. If you aren't ready, you just aren't. If you are ready and just aren't finding the right guy, keep looking, but try and have fun. Sometimes I hate dating, other times I have a good time. Just be gentle with yourself.
Like I said, I think we all have one we don't get over, and it sounds like you have found yours. I hope the feelings eventually fade, but a part of my heart is still hanging on to mine, too, so I don't know...