Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
after promising and telling me he was no longer talking to these women on his cell I found out he still was. That was even after going to a marriage counselor with me. Right after I caught him again he did leave me a note saying how sorry he was that he knows its his fault and that he loves me that he is just screwed up and needs help and he knows I will never forgive him. Ok I was so mad, but now yes I am mad at what he did and is still probably doing, but I can't stay mad at him only at what he does. Does that make any sense? I still love him and he try's to do all these nice things for me even now, and I let him instead of telling him to go to hell like I know I should. Why can't I just tell him to leave me alone. I know he loves me, but I should be more important then the women he try's so hard to still talk to. We do have two kids so we will always be connected maybe that is what I use as an excuse. He is out of the house since Feb. As you can see I am very confused.
When I finally said I wasn't happy and I wanted a divorce, he did change but when I didn't fall back into his arms, he was an angry asshole and it was all temporary on his side. They change so you forgive them, they fall apart and blame it on us not understanding (does this sound like him?), they do it long enough so we stop being angry and allow things to go back to normal... once they do, they go back to the same behavior... but wait, we get blamed for that too in the end.
You need to change you and you will realize, you don't want him anymore.