Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
How do you deal with them being with someone else? My ex isn't with anyone else that i know of but i think about him being with someone else all the time and it kills me. It makes me want to go running back so no one else can have him. But I can't go back... it was too bad. The verbal abuse will kill me im afraid and if I saw him while things are bad it would be physical too. And i can't take it anymore.But the hardest part is thinking of him with someone else. doing the things we used to do, another girl in his arms where I used to be. How do yall deal with that?
One thing that keeps me going; look back at the pattern that you two had. His pattern; really look at that. Now imagine it with someone else...will it be better??? We all have our patterns...people don't change too much!
My ex: well he has his patterns: maybe the OW is perfect for him; may they have fun; Oh and his daughter hates hates the girlfriend! YAY!!!!!
Im struggling with what you are as well. I take a spiritual view of this for my relief. Joyce Meyer in her book ,Battlefield Of The Mind, says that satan and his minions tell us lies and deceit so that we are distracted from God and healing. This is what satan wants, chaos and disorder, which is where our minds are. Pray that the Lord strengthens your mind and that He banishes the evil and destructive thoughts. Just my view:)
Good luck and Im supporting you cause I KNOW what its like.
Regards
Ricky
Example: was talking to my ex during our final settlement hearing yesterday. He says in a very disgusted voice that his ow (who is living with him now) was injured at work and has to have surgery and will be laid up for four months. Of course I know she only gets 70% pay while on leave and will have difficulty getting disability as she has only worked where they work together one year. I think ex is realizing that he's got a big rock hanging around his neck and is probably already thinking of a way to get rid of her. She's a drain on his pocketbook.
Your stbx will treat his new woman the same way as mine is probably going to treat his.
You are much better off.
I focus on me and my life, what I want out of life.
Your ex is clearly not someone who wants the best for you, or he wouldn't verbally and physically abuse you.
In time, it will not hurt so bad if you think of him with someone else. That's because you will have moved on. But until then, I recommend not torturing yourself with those types of visions.
Keep the focus on you, your healing, and planning your life ahead of you.
Hugs, Meg!
Some days it is all I think about and makes so depressed....
I don't know, but this better get easier real soon. I can't take much more.