Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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After one year of seperation, I have filed for divorce. I did it because I know he will never do it. Not because he doesnt want to, but because he doesnt have the money to do it. And because he never finished anything he ever started. He wouldnt do it because he thinks he shouldnt have to. He is thinking, why should I file for divorce when I know she will?
Anyway...now that its been one year, how does one stay strong? In the begining, I was pretty strong. Then, in the middle, I was a mess. Then I got strong again. Now, I dont know what I am. I am tired, that I know. Tired of the emotions.
I dont want to go back to that, but, how come I am wondering if we should talk about it? He wont talk about it, I know this. I have already tried to get him to talk about it last week.
Is it because the final day is approaching and there might not be another chance? Is this it? Is this really the end?
He hasnt been served, yet, but I wanted to give the chance, just in case.
Just because I left him, didnt mean I didnt love him.
Oh, Im just so tired.
Anyway...now that its been one year, how does one stay strong? In the begining, I was pretty strong. Then, in the middle, I was a mess. Then I got strong again. Now, I dont know what I am. I am tired, that I know. Tired of the emotions.
I dont want to go back to that, but, how come I am wondering if we should talk about it? He wont talk about it, I know this. I have already tried to get him to talk about it last week.
Is it because the final day is approaching and there might not be another chance? Is this it? Is this really the end?
He hasnt been served, yet, but I wanted to give the chance, just in case.
Just because I left him, didnt mean I didnt love him.
Oh, Im just so tired.
I think what you said about it being the final day probably has something to do with it. Its not easy to have to admit that its really over and we hold on to the last bit of hope that it can be saved, but usually the one person who can save it has allready said their goodbye's.
Sorry you are feeling confused but its normal. I've been separated over a year now and the divorce will be final July 3rd. I still have my days/moments where I feel weak and unsure of the future but I know I can't look back anymore. I have to look forward. To what? I don't know yet, but looking back hurts too much.
My ex waited for me to suggest he leave before he left. He threatened time and again, but it wasn't until I suggested it was for the best that he did it. Only he knows what that was about. I do know, now that I am on the other side, that you CAN get through it. You will.
Be tired, it's ok Be kind to you.
I had to be seperated for one year before divorce. That is the way it is here in MD.
Filing is a big step and it's natural to have mixed feelings but try to stay realistic about who he as and what he's done to you and your kids. You'll get through you made it this far.
Then I get a message that my stbx didn't file the final paperwork because he wants more money from me. Long story..
anyway,
now that lawyers are involved and I've been to court..
it's drug me back into the thick of it. I freak out everytime I get a letter from my lawyer.
And court?
I saw him for the first time in 6 months and I was a mess afterwards (even though I got what I wanted)
Still not divorced, more stuff to argue about...
and THAT is what is making me crazy. It's as if I'm being held back by the legal crap, and his trying to hurt me financially.
I find myself sobbing on the floor again.
It's as if my wounds have reopened.
But once all this crap is over, I will be fine. More than fine.
And so will you.
Being strong is a process and I don't think it ends until the day we die.
Its natural for you to still have emotions for your stbx. I stil have some warm memories of my ex and there are many things about him that I miss.
Give yourself time. Many folks do get back together; maybe you and your husband will be one of them.
Good luck to you.