Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm sitting at home going over the entire 11years of marriage. Dam this fool leaves me again. I had surgery Thursday and the low down dog was not even around. I guess he forgot. I'm so shocked that he has not called. I guess I thought this could have been better than this. I wan to destroy him but I leave that to GOD. After all of what we have been through and this is it. Shit, Nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can not get any answers to why for all of this. All I remember is that I left for work we kissed and said I love you and now he has not been back since June 10th. I sit here asking myself is he happy now? Is he in love with the other individual? I guess out of sight out of mind is the way he is handling everything. The last time I talked to this fool he was being very nasty to me as if I did something to him. He rush me off the phone and states stay right by the phone I will call you right back don't move I will call you right back. It has been three weeks. What the fuck!! I mean what in the hell is going on. I want him to hurt like me and I can't. I'm so frustrated with this I could explode. I supported him for two years of his non working ass, and problems needing psych meds, depression and all. Now he leaves me to be with another and forget me. OH GOD please help me from my rage. This is not fair at all. I sit wonder will he call again, will he try to come back,or will he call to ask for a divorce.Some please talk to me. Why the bullshit!!!!!!!!!!!!!
His reasons, his thinking, his rationalization..are HIS problem..not yours.
For now, my best advice to you...concentrate on yourself, getting well, moving on. Do not let the "fury" consume you, it does no good at all.
My mother had a very simple expression "you don't acknowledge dog shit, you step over it!". So step over the steaming pile, try not to think about it too much...it is after all, just so much shit...and keep moving.
I know that sounds like so much blather..but it certainly helped me, that some times our lot in life is to separate the cream from the crap...trust me, he's crap.
I am so sorry you are going through this, but you will make it through. Keep talking and keep your head up.
If Im miserable you can find my shoes and clothing organized by color!
Warm hugs,
Lynne
I know, 11 years is a long time, but wouldn't you rather have someone in your life that you can depend on and not be worried all the time that he is going to leave?
Hugs sweetie, I know it hurts!
He has left you before, doesn't work, is unfaithful. Why do you want to stay with someone who treats you so terribly?
Get into some counseling to help with your anger and grief and leave this loser. You deserve better.
Hugs!