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bambam 02/28/2007

I know that this will sound really wierd, but I honestly need help with this.

When my husband and I first starting dating, he was extremely jealous of my friends (who were all male at the time). As a result of our relationship, I made the choice to get rid of those friends. Throughout the course of our relationship, he was very controlling, to the point where I wasn't allowed to have friends outside of his group of people.

Now we are separated and the friends remain with him. I live in a town without my family and without friends, this time is ever some much more difficult.

I am really a social person and love people - but I don't remember how or where even to start meeting people (not sexual or relationship, just friendly).

Can you please give me examples or ideas that have worked???

Thanks

deleted_user 02/28/2007

Try meetups.com. Also try calling your old friends. If they were friends before I'm sure they would love to hear from you.

deleted_user 02/28/2007

What about goign to church...I have made some good friends there

deleted_user 02/28/2007

I agree with Stevej--I would try to get back in touch with some of your old friends, if they were truly your friends they will still be there. I was going to tell you that your husband has issues if he pulled you away from your male friends--then you wrote he was controlling and that said it all--He is controlling because he is not happy in his own skin--so by him controlling others it gives him power. Be grateful he is now an ex--go on with your life--do some of the things you haven't had a chance to do in a while--HAVE FUN!!!
Starting over is hard--but it's worth it!!!

deleted_user 02/28/2007

OMG...reading your post was like looking into my own life....my stbx was/is the SAME way. The only thing that has saved me is that I've been able to make friends at work. Are you working? Some places have groups for the peole who work there to get to know each other. If you have kids arranging playdates with their friends is a good way to meet other people. Just don't give up!

deleted_user 02/28/2007

bambam, you're making a good start right now! :-)

I would check into your local community schedule and look for socials of any kind. Perhaps a potluck, roller skating party, pool league, etc. Also look for support groups that you may be interested in, such as a divorce support like this on line site... Heck, even the local grocery store can be loaded with potential friends. Depends on how open you are with introducing yourself.

deleted_user 02/28/2007

Kill everyone in town you don't like. Whomever is left will be your friend.

deleted_user 02/28/2007

Harley...you are the sweetest, funniest man I have ever had the pleasure of meeting..YOU ALWAYS make me laugh!

Plus I like your idea..hehe

deleted_user 03/02/2007

All I can suggest is what I did Joined DS and made some amazing friends on here. I know we are all computer friends but it's a start and a really one. I also got back in contact with people I had alienated with my depression. You could try myspace.com just pls pls pls be careful of anyone you choose to meet with. Oh and friending me would be another good start ! hehe

deleted_user 03/02/2007

The meetup.com is a great idea. Ask neighbors. Ask those people who were "his" friends too, darnit! What about a job? Maybe a local support group? Volunteer work in the community? Just get out and live!! It is probably one of the most rewarding things that has happened since my situation. I am finding new friends and getting together with old ones.

deleted_user 03/02/2007

I used meetup.com and have meet some awesome divorced women on the site, we have monthly meetup at local resturants.

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