Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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jcolacino 08/27/2011

I know its time to let go of the woman I have loved for more than 11 years. She has made the decision that I am not worth any effort and she will no longer try to learn ot open her heart.

How do I let go when she works for my company and is an integral part of the company. If I had someone to fill her shoes, I would ask here to leave Monday buts easier said than done. I also love her son like he was my own... I am going to lose both of them!

I am worn out, scared to death, lonely, weak.... I cry all the time...
I hate the state my mind is in right now... I have no interest in another woman as this was the one for me!

Please offer and kind words to help me... I am so empty inside

Jim

deleted_user 08/27/2011

crying is good but too much of it will run a man down to nothing. be careful not to get too run down. make sure that you eat and sleep and spend time with friends and family. don't be alone too much and don't listen to sad songs.

on a professional level, get her out of your business. she has to be replaced. or sell your business and move away to make a whole new life someplace else.

we can't make people stay dedicated. if they check out on us, then we have to check out on them too. two can play that game.

good luck and be smart with this grief process and you will get through it pretty good.

DaniRae8808 08/27/2011

Huni I am so sorry ~ But only time will get you over this. But you have to believe me when I say that you WILL get through this. I have been there myself.... and I am fine today and am happy again. You may not be interested in other women now, and that is ok, you need to take this time for YOU. Find yourself again. For whatever reason that your wife doesn't want to be with you anymore, well consider it her loss, it truly is. There is a woman out there who will treat you like you deserve to be treated and one day,your ex will regret it.

But you need to take control. You need to post for her job, find a replacement. There are many people who are very qualified to do her job, many. And it would NOT take them long to step right in. You need to get her out of your life. Until then, you may never fully heal.

deleted_user 08/27/2011

Wow....I know exactly how you feel. I don't work with my stbx yet I feel the same way you do. I'm completely worn out both physically and emotionally. At my wits end. I'm the lonliest I've ever been in my life. I have no interest in anyone else besides my husband.

Yet he has no interest in me. Has moved on emotionally and I'm sure physically with other women. Mid life crisis...gotta love it.

We've been together 18 years and have a wonderful daughter together. She is what keeps me going day after day. I bury myself in my work, my faith, and my love for my child.

I'm not an overly religious person yet believing God has a plan for me has helped me get by each day. There is a reason for everything. We may not see it now but we will in the future. We will get through this!

deleted_user 08/27/2011

I am so sorry that you are hurting. It makes it even harder that you have to work around her. Hang in there. I am going through a divorce and totally understand your pain.I have been reading alot of books about breakups and divorce. We are just in the first stages of grief.You will be Ok, just give your self time to hurt.I cry all the time too.

deleted_user 08/28/2011

Best of luck, prayers for strength during your time of loss and wisdom for making the tough decisions upcoming.

On another note, I felt very much what you feel for quite some time. Time will help but it won't go away fast enough I'm sure. I appreciate you sharing and hope you find the abundance of support here. I wish I'd found this site in '08/'09 when the train wreck started.

Pour out you love on your kids.

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