Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
the father of my child broke up with me two weeks back and he says i should never call him i should only do that if it include the baby. honestly i love him alot and i reaqli find it hard to accept that it is really over. i cry always at work home while travelling i just can not let him go. please help because i sumtyms think of killing my self
I am sorry to hear that your relationship ended. It is really hard. Especially when it is the father of your child and you are in love.
You are now a mom and it is a lot of pressure but we must use that pressure to get strong and make good choices. We can't fall apart...
First off - you are going to be OK. Yes, it really sucks right now, but he is just Guy. You have come so far in your life to throw it all away for a man. It is normal to be sad and think crazy things, like ending your life, when you are in a very bad spot, but it is NOT normal to be stuck in that mode for more than a few minutes. There were many times I wanted to just die, but I recognized that it was a time of severe emotional stress and I had to do whatever I had to do to survive it and be a strong parent for my kids . We don't have any other option. It is not our kids' fault that we screwed up our lives and now we are miserable. We owe it to them to get things on track.
2. Just because you BF said : " we are done forever" that means nothing. Months from now he may change his mind. Be wise - let him have his space. Whatever happened, your relationship wasn't good. It has to end.
It is possible that he is a complete ahole and you are much better off without him OR you have some big issues to solve and work on yourself before you can have a loving relationship, or a combination of both. Either way - if you are fighting and arguing, it is better for child not to see that.
I hope things go better for you.
You will get through this.
i hear all that you are saying but how do i cope with having to see him but knowing very well that he is nolonger mine how do i cope with seeing him with another girl. how do i cope with so much pain after 4 years of being together. i value family alot and i always prayed that the man i have a baby with should be my hubby. i grow with separated parents and the pain of that i do not want my son to go though that. all i want is to fix things with him or atleast know why he broke up with me like find that closer
I promise that you will feel better in time.
You MUST immediately speak to a professional in regards to thoughts of killing yourself. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or even your regular doctor. Even if it is a faint thought you absolutely have to speak to a professional.
As bad as it feels right now, it will get better. I will be happy to comment and help in anyway I can AFTER you make that phone call or see a professional about suicide thoughts.
Best
Rich
Rich