Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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This is my very first most on here. I am going through a really bad breakup, my now ex boyfriend dumped and humiliated me in front of a lot of people. After all that he proceeded to post all over social media that he wanted me back and convinced/guilt tripped me to get back with him. After all of that he dumped me not even 2 days after. I started having some symptoms of pregnancy so I told him just in case and he flipped out saying I’m a whore, to abort it, he doesn’t want anything to do with it and if I kept it, it would suffer. I then found out he was cheating on me with his best friend I was always skeptical aboit. I am completely heartbroken. How do I cope with all of this?
I would advise that you understand how destructive and spiteful this person is and thank you lucky stars he's opting out of the relationship. Put as much distance between the two of you as possible and focus on putting this whole sorted mess behind you.
as for being pregnant, you need to be financially, physically and psychologically ready so you will be ok co-existing with your child and the child will be well taken care of and can enjoy a relatively good life when he is born. your partner will have to chip in financially if this does go through but you might have to give up on him being a good father material to your child because of his issue above.
Having kids is a huge thing in life and its going to be a life changing experience and its a choice that cannot be reversed. its going to require lot of time, energy, resources, patience and attention from you and its something you need to think about not only for yourself but also for the child as your inability to meet their needs will hugely impact their quality of life and the side affect may even continue to their adulthood (especially if something psychological) which is quite a heavy responsibility to take in for anyone.
if someone humiliatingly dumps you why go back to them? You made the choice so own it. And when they leave and you pull the pregnancy card do you not expect an explosion? This is what all the girls do. the whole pregnancy card thing is such a cliche. he would've been thinking 'omg really?' you did that. That was your choice. Yes it was dumb but I agree it was worth a go. On some level. Hey. if you can manipulate 'em, why not try ay.
As to him cheating, I have never been that concerned about cheating. it's just a message saying "I don't want to be with you any more' which quite frankly he was giving in many other ways. It's convenient to leave when they're cheating - they let you go. Otherwise you can trigger their ownership instincts and they try to keep you just in case.
Move on with your life. Take responsibility for your actions. Choose actions that have the consequences you want.
Become more than you were. You have a long way to go.
I think maybe adoption. I don't think you are old enough to raise a child.