My husband and I were best friends. We had fun, we were building together, learning together and growing together. We had issues just like anyone else but I always felt that we could work through them. This year made 10 years of marriage. I thought we were happy, I thought he was happy. We loss our baby to a miscarriage six months ago.  After our miscarriage my husband became distant.  I through myself into grad school and took on a part ime job while he used his time to set up ads on dating websites and hung out with his friends meeting other women. I did not find this out until two months ago when I didn't feel right and decided to download a tracking app. I tracked him to a females house not even 10 minutes from where I live. He continued to talk to her and eventually went back to see her a couple more times. Due to this our marriage was strained, I entered into counseling see a therapist 1-2 times a month. He never came with me. He actually refused. He eventually moved out and told me he needed space. He told me he was staying with friends. He got a new phone number and did not give it to me. He kept telling me he did not want me to track him to his friends house causing issues because they were doing him a favor letting him stay there. He also did not give me money for the bills any longer and we just purchased our home less than two years ago. I found out last week after showing up to one of his appointments that he is living with a female who has three kids all under the age of three in another county and he has told her he wants her to untie her tubes and have a baby for him. He lied to her and told her he wasn't married and only had an ex girlfriend. He also lied about our living arrangements, and the tattoos he has with my name. He told her my name was his mother's name and if they were to get pregnant he would like to name the baby after mother (which is really my name tattooed on him. What kind of sick mess is that. He has been dealing with this second female longer than the first female I caught him with and telling her all lies. The things she told me sickened me.  But somehow I thought if I kept reading the bible did what I am supposed to do, he will do the right thing. God hates divorce, keep praying is what I thought but its getting worse. He came by my job to check on me but refused to answer questions about her or his actions.  I don't want a divorce but feel I have no other choice. I am afraid he may get her pregnant and then I will be financially responsible for their child. I also feel he doesn't want a divorce but just want to show her papers to make her feel secure. The total disrespect of all of this has made me physically sick.  I am being monitored due to my anxiety attacks and family history of stroke and cardiac issues. Does anyone have any information on how to pull through this. I have no idea why he is doing this. I am older by 7 years, he does not really have any family. Could a miscarriage make a man do this? Or a boy do this? I feel a man would obey his vows and never hurt he one he loves. We hardly argued and never fought. I am heartbroken, devastated over this. I thought we would grow old together. I could never imagine my husband with someone else and now its all I think about. How could this be happening, I am a good wife, a good provider, devoted, loving, caring, affectionate and generous. I think he was insecure because I do make more money and I am in school and have a better social network. However, I have never made him feel less than. I have always encouraged, thanked and appreciated my husband. We both brought different things to the table, I just can't believe he folded and through in the towel without even an explanation or good faith try.