Wow, so sorry for his callousness, you did well
To only throw the bottle at him. I hope you did
Not lose your pills.

No contact does work if you can do it and stick
With it. That is all about you and your recovery
And Your healing from him.

If they are emotionally immature and Stunted
don't expect anything good from him and Yes
to some its about still getting it whether they
Want you as a equal partner or not, HUGS

so sorry to hear that. here for you

things will get better

Thank you

Honestly, your boyfriend sounds like an ex of mine that I had a few years back. I had to go to therapy when I was dating him because I couldn't figure out why I was such a depressed person. My therapist basically told me what I didn't want to face and that it was my relationship. Everything was on his terms. We would have a blow out fight, break up, and then he would call me the next day like nothing happened. He even got kicked out of a bar once for screaming and yelling in my face. And stupid me chased after him. I tried to break up with him and he never let it happen only to turn it around on me and make sure he was the one doing the breaking up. It was exhausting and I lost a year of my life to his toxic ways. I think guys like that find nice girls like us to manipulate. It could be we have self esteem issues or codependency issues. Look up narcissistic personality disorder. My ex def had that and sounds like yours.

Sometimes certain humans are so wrapped up in what they want they forget the sun doesn't revolve around them. Wasn't Galileo who figured that out?

here for you

You have a right to your feelings. That relationship is over. You will be hurt all over again. Its time to move forward. The next bf will be better than your ex.

Thank u all. Hugs

Unfortunately there are many other guys just like him, who are insensitive and whose main goal is sex. It's a rite of passage for women to have to navigate through the jerks to finding a good man. Just recognizing a jerk is a step in the right direction. Don't give them too much energy but instead focus on the things and people that make you healthy, happy and strong. Hugs.

Thank u Jaynib. Hugs

i just had to say, having feelings never makes you stupid, recognizing a concern and acting on it makes you quite the opposite. I'm sure you've heard it again and again, but its true, happiness begins with making you happy, for you

The best thing is to maintain no contact with him.
That is for you and for you gaining some clarity Into
The situation.

Its hard but once the relationship is broken you can
only go Forward and fix yourself so the Next time when
You are ready and healed you can find a Good healthy
Partner and find peace, joy and comfort. Thats my hope
For me too.

Often we are our own worst enemies, we want what we
Want and don't let go of what is bad or unhealthy for us.
There are a million other fish out in the sea its just not the
One we keep Focusing on.

Its about detaching From him and the relationship and
that Can be very difficult, i found since i detached i can
see much More clearly about him and I.

I am not coming so much From a place of emotion as i
was. It all still hurts and causes me deep Pain but its in
the past and i need to move on as best as I can thats my
job to take care of me, HUGS

I understand the urge to kick ourselves for how many times we believed the person was THIS time going to change.. I did that so many times over a bad 9 yr relationship that i lost count of hos mzny times i broke it off. Part of me is angfy that i lost 9 years of my life for someone who never stepped up yo the plate...but ultimately i dont believe we are stupid for believing in someones potential and hoping we will be able to get what we need eventuslly. It is so hard to let go when you havd years invested emotionally and i got the same thing with sex....they act like a jerk than next day act like nothing is wrong and expect sex! I know with men and some women, sex is the language for "im sorry"....but any more, i want the words. My only solution to nit getting pulled back in anymore was total no contact...and its getting better..getting to see i DO have a life if my own and can take care if myself and can choose to only be around people who treat md with respect. Someone is out there who really aporeciates shat wd have to offer....but we cant find them if stay tangled up with someone else. Men can compartmentalize sex and it doesnt necessarily mean a relationship to them. I am sending hugs to All who are going through this process.