Wow...I know that had to cut deep.

We are in the same house until May(roommate situation) and avoid each other at all costs.

Maybe I will just go out with some friends and come in late as to avoid having any contact with him. He doesn't deserve any acknowledgement from me.

I'm counting the days....

It must be hard living in the same house. Our 26th coming up and I think I decided not to say anything even if she does. She wanted this not me.

I used to send him b-day greetings, and other special occasion greetings. I won't be anymore. Not even for the 4th of July, Veteran's day, x-mas etc. I probably spent the loneliest, sickest (physically), saddest birthday I have ever had last October 2013, the bastard never even remembered my birthday and yet took his whore to dinner!

My birthday, Christmas and everything else has been forgotten for the past two years... It hurts but I just say "F-ck it" and move on... I wouldn't acknowledge anything for him.. Let him pay the price for his actions.

You probably feel guilty because you are a caring person who usually takes others thoughts and feelings into consideration before making choices. That's a wonderful quality! Share it with someone who deserves it. The stbx is NOT that someone.

Since he wants to "be by himself" now, let him wish "himself" a happy birthday.

"My birthday, Christmas and everything else has been forgotten for the past two years... It hurts but I just say "F-ck it" and move on... I wouldn't acknowledge anything for him.. Let him pay the price for his actions".

Loved your reply Johnzilla! :) and yours too WinterKate. Yep, wishing the bastard well coz I don't want him to be well!!

Thanks WinterKate.

Your remark just brought back a memory from Xmas 2012. We had a big argument because his feelings were hurt...I had forgotten to get him a card. I had spent the few days before shopping, cooking, wrapping, and packing for both him and my son. I had stayed up after midnight wrapping gifts and stuffing stockings (yes, his stocking too) so that everything would be perfect. On top of all of this, I had been sick. By the time I thought about the card, it was too late. The next morning, the only thing he could do was point out that I didn't get him a freakin card. He was so unappreciative of anything I had done. He made me feel like a complete failure. All of this just ruined Xmas.

I wasn't perfect by any means during our marriage, but regardless of what I did right, he would point out my shortcomings. I finally just gave up trying. I always felt that he was disappointed in me.

I am so better off without him. He had so many issues that I turned a blind eye to. He was not good for me nor my son. I just did not want a divorce. In my head, I felt like divorce was another sign of my failure.

I think he did something for my bday....three times? in our 9 years married...NEVER anything on Valentine's Day, and our anniversary? Hahahahahaha...I don't think we did anything.

Oh yeah, and we didn't do Xmas for each other because he wanted "to save money"...even though he spent it like a fiend.

Anyhow, since having a child, and to this day, we DO get each other something from our son, but I don't ever consider it as a gift from my ex.

And we do get each other mother/fathers day gifts.

As far as personal attachment to any of those dates? Nope, it isn't there.

Dress up and look nice on that day and go out without him and don't even say anything let him be on his own if not with the new glfrnd. I found out a day before my birthday that he is back with his ex it hurt like hell