Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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K8tlyn820 03/09/2017

Well today was the day I found out he soon to be ex husband cheated on me. It's with a girl he works with. The one we would fight about when we were married. The one I saw him talk about in a way I knew spelt trouble. He shut me out for months talked to her. Stayed there for hours longer to hang out with her. For months I thought I was going crazy and I was correct with all of it. The kicker- he's with her now. They are together. I asked if it was serious. He won't answer. He waited 6 days ( or so he says) to sleep with her. I'm sure it happened before he asked for the divorce. It's been 6 weeks since we've been separated. I knew it this whole time. I wish I'd heard he slept with 300 woman than was in this emotional relationship with this woman while we were together and married. I'm alone now and he's with this beautiful girl that he says is 100 percent different than me. That is all I was worth to him- 6 days- 6 weeks. I was his wife. Our life together. And I'm still having to deal with all the divorce filing, the money the hassle. I've never felt worse than I do right now.

mirandac 03/09/2017

I am sorry for all your pain and hurt

Many of us have been there, its not A good
place to be in. Its more about Him than you,
that still does not stop All the hurt, pain and
rejection.

My ex was very close and good friends With
the woman he left me for, they knew Each other
well.

My ex stated nothing happened until after He left.
I got all the testing because i Believed every word,
I really don't know that truth.

Doesn't matter he was cheating in his Heart regardless
and had a hard heart toward his own wife, those two
things i know for a fact. HUGS

confused1 03/10/2017

It's always the same old story, isn't it? Hits me in the gut over and over...how can people treat people like this? How can anyone trust anyone again? How do you move on?

speechless1000 03/10/2017

I'm as confused as you are! Why do men / women create families & then destroy them on what seems to be a whim? My first husband cheated on me whilst I was pregnant with some complete skank - it lasted maybe 2 mths. 5 years later we are co parenting our amazing son. He threw him away for a tramp, Your ex like mine is the loser. X

ripped_my_heartout 03/10/2017

I'm so sorry. I too know what it's like when you find out you were not crazy and stbx had an affair. My ex is not currantly in a relationship...she is just sleeping with men for fun. A lot of them too. It doesn't make it any better to know that she didn't leave for love. It was strictly sex.

Since then I have discovered through therapy that she is a narcissist and a gaslighter. My no contact has helped me realize the person she was. She was making me crazy. Felt like I was loosing my mind.

Time will make things much clearer for you...it has for me. With the help from therapy and divorce group, which I recommend. You will get through this. Stay strong and positive. It's time to look after yourself -HUGS-

aj2124 03/10/2017

I'm so sorry. I had a similar experience except that I don't believe they stayed together. It took time but I eventually realized that it was never about me. I could have been any other woman and he would've done the same exact thing. I take responsibility for my faults in the marriage but there was nothing I could have done to gain his respect. I know that doesn't fix the pain that you are in. It hurts deeply and there's no way around that. I will be praying for you during this difficult time.

bakerjackie321 03/10/2017

I have not had to experience it yet but I am dreading it. However you describe her as beautiful and not at all like you. I agree with the last part-you are a decent person who would never be involved in her crap that hurt a wife and mother by sleeping and getting involved with him. He isn't with someone beautiful or better than you. Her actions make her disgustingly ugly and she is not as good as you. Be glad those cheaters are with each other and that leaves one less man and one less woman to be an undeserving victim. Take care and all the hugs and prayers I can muster I am sending your way.

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