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So yesterday it was officaly a month since my husband left I truly dont know how I feel about it, i still cry every night, but the crying spells have gotten shorter and shorter. As i have had the time to reflect on the things that have happened, everything just seems crazy to me. During the time that my husband and I were struggling, we had found out that My father in law had been cheating on my mother in law and he left her for another woman. Evry one was devastated, not once did my husband care to make his mother feel better. That right there was so weird to me.
What i dont understand is that,, it obviously hurt my husband what his mother was going through. I remember how he would speak about how his father was abusive, cheated on his mother more than 1 time, and would leave the house and not come back for months.
I remember earlier on in our relationship my husband would cry to me and told me how much pain that caused in his childhood.
Now I ask myself, he knows how painful it is...why would he do this to me? I dont understand what he is thinking.
I hate him I really do.
So yesterday it was officaly a month since my husband left I truly dont know how I feel about it, i still cry every night, but the crying spells have gotten shorter and shorter. As i have had the time to reflect on the things that have happened, everything just seems crazy to me. During the time that my husband and I were struggling, we had found out that My father in law had been cheating on my mother in law and he left her for another woman. Evry one was devastated, not once did my husband care to make his mother feel better. That right there was so weird to me.
What i dont understand is that,, it obviously hurt my husband what his mother was going through. I remember how he would speak about how his father was abusive, cheated on his mother more than 1 time, and would leave the house and not come back for months.
I remember earlier on in our relationship my husband would cry to me and told me how much pain that caused in his childhood.
Now I ask myself, he knows how painful it is...why would he do this to me? I dont understand what he is thinking.
I hate him I really do.
You know he is part of a dysfunctional family. You knew there were red flags before you married him and you ignored them. You know he has an entrenched relationship with his mom that is far stronger than his relationship with his wife and that's another red flag. At times he almost seems to be a child that has a "failure to launch" relationship with his mom meaning he still clings to her and must have her--that's just what it feels like to me because he needs Momma every weekend, all weekend, he listens to her then comes home and would chew you out. Momma IS LIKE HIS WIFE.
Give up trying to figure out WHY and start figuring out getting on your feet, working on you, and working towards your future.