Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Good evening from rain sodden Manchester (UK).
Its raining tears in my living room again too! My wife of ten years left me just under two months ago. She moved back in with her parents and I got left in the house (which is up for sale).
I still get to see my son- but that means I sometimes get to see my wife too- and that really. Really hurts. Why does she look more beautiful than she has ever looked before?
Her reasons for leaving were:
My recent struggle with depression (two years of it this time!) brought on by being a Mental Health Nurse (yes- thats my career and I still couldnt help myself ) and working night shifts for the two years I was depressed!
The fact that she no longer loves me.
The fact that she no longer knows who she is (and by proxy neither do I anymore).
She told me she wanted a clean slate and a fresh start to her life and that nothing could ever get us back to where we were because she didnt know what that was anymore. The last five years have been fraught with tension and we have had several trail separations lasting from a few days to a couple of weeks.
But this time its definitely real and for good. Shes moved out anything that she needs and once the house is sold (possibly in January) I will have to find my own place.
I cry a lot. Then I get angry. Then I cry and then I get jealous. She has admitted to straying away from me on more than one occasion- but wont tell me exactly how far it went or how many times it happened.
I would appreciate somebody telling me what to do next. I know I need to move on- and I am doing the best I possibly can.
But- I feel like Ive been burned out from the inside.
Its raining tears in my living room again too! My wife of ten years left me just under two months ago. She moved back in with her parents and I got left in the house (which is up for sale).
I still get to see my son- but that means I sometimes get to see my wife too- and that really. Really hurts. Why does she look more beautiful than she has ever looked before?
Her reasons for leaving were:
My recent struggle with depression (two years of it this time!) brought on by being a Mental Health Nurse (yes- thats my career and I still couldnt help myself ) and working night shifts for the two years I was depressed!
The fact that she no longer loves me.
The fact that she no longer knows who she is (and by proxy neither do I anymore).
She told me she wanted a clean slate and a fresh start to her life and that nothing could ever get us back to where we were because she didnt know what that was anymore. The last five years have been fraught with tension and we have had several trail separations lasting from a few days to a couple of weeks.
But this time its definitely real and for good. Shes moved out anything that she needs and once the house is sold (possibly in January) I will have to find my own place.
I cry a lot. Then I get angry. Then I cry and then I get jealous. She has admitted to straying away from me on more than one occasion- but wont tell me exactly how far it went or how many times it happened.
I would appreciate somebody telling me what to do next. I know I need to move on- and I am doing the best I possibly can.
But- I feel like Ive been burned out from the inside.
International group. It helps you go thru the grief,mourning and
Anger. There is nothing like the pain of divorce, it is the true
Ripping of flesh.
It has been Four months since he left i still cry and am in pain
but it Will end someday. i plan to go no contact when everything
Is said and done. I have alot of healing to do after 29 years.
You could join some type 12 step group. I go to alanon that
Is very helpful and wonderful for me. i have grown and healed
And keep doing the next best thing. One foot in front of the
Other. Trying to keep sane during this stressful awful time.
make sure you get sleep...medicate if necessary
Ask your doctor for antidepressants if you feel you cannot cope.
My wife of 19 years left me last year..August
I know exactly what you are a feeling
It is unbearable and you have to find love and support of friends and family and use them ....talk talk talk
It takes a very long time to get through this
I am sorry for your pain and know you are not alone
Over a year later...I am living with my girlfriend in our new home...with her son part time
I still hurt and am trying to figure it all out
But I have a new life and a new and different future
It's got excellent information about how to take care of yourself and explaining what's happening to you during a breakup.
I also like to think of it as moving through rather than moving on. There is no avoiding the grief. There is no talking yourself out of it. You've been shattered and that has to be honored. Treat yourself with more kindness than you ever have before. Let yourself cry and hurt, and also do things that show real self-care and love. Try not to isolate yourself. Educate yourself on all the ways to deal with this that are healthy.
Remember that you are worthwhile. You are worthy of love and respect.
Try and stay busy, take care of you. Counseling will help a lot. Read self help books and most of all, come to this site often, there are plenty of us here to listen to you, advice and share our experience with you. Be the best dad you can be and spend as much time as you can with your son, he will need you right now!!!!
Again, I'm truly sorry for your pain, nothing compares to it.
Hugs!