Good morning!  5 months ago I thought I was a reasonably happily married man (3 year marriage/dated 1 year) to the most resilliant/strong/cheerful woman.  4 weeks ago I became officially divorced.  Because my work schedule is pretty demanding and our kids (hers through a previous marriage) shared time with their father 50% of the week, I'd encouraged my wife to get out with friends.  We fired up a successful home business she could run to stay home and raise the kids and through this business she met a lot of local people while out and about. 

One night in May she texted to say she'd had too much to drink and would come home in the morning-we practically never drink and never get drunk!  We got into a text argument where I was begging to bring her safely home yet she refused to.  By morning I'd learned she'd cleared about half the cash from our checking account and had attempted to get cash off our credit cards.  She never came home again....

The next week or two we'd discussed what I thought were the beginnings of a reconsilliation.  One time we'd met for lunch where I'd learned she'd actually been having an affair for the past few weeks (and has had an on/off affair for almost a year with another guy).  Long, long story but I'd learned this by seeing her cell phone-not by her admission until I brought this to her attention.  I later learned she'd been planning to leave maybe as far back as a year ago, had family clued into the plan and had never told me about a significant/dark part of her personality or how she'd been "acting" with her new found friends.  My family and friends have speculated she's going through a mid-life crisis....I don't know what to think except that I've learned she has had a deep hatred toward me for a year, maybe more.  We had a few issues last summer , outright argued maybe no more than 5 times ever, got couciling and I thought were doing just fine.  I've had a good source for my information which has helped me get some closure.  Time though is the only real healer and I know from past experience that I'm a slow healer.  Anyway she's ditched her other local boyfriends for a guy 3 hours away and tonight I just learned she's in the process of moving in with him (only known him for a month!).  It shouldn't bother me but somehow it cuts extra deep just knowing she's leaving town...the same person I'd have done anything to stay with...even to work through any of our issues...even the affairs...  Sorry this was so long but I wanted to say hi, give my story and let others know they aren't alone.  It's rough out there but we will get through this.  Tonight though I could use some encouraging thoughts...maybe a few hugs.  Thanks folks.  :)