Hi Jon -- I can see how this can. Be helpful in supporting your students. It certainly provides perspective about what parents are thinking. You might want to check out an app called Stigma as well, there are a lot of teenagers using that for support

Hi Jon, --- I would like to narrate my story u can get another kind. I would like to brief it as much as possible.

I had a 10 long yr relationship and we both were into it. Yes there were fights as no relationship goes smooth. But we always used to work it out together. Now the time came when we were talking about marriage and stuff. I was always insecure about him because i dont know why but i always got this feeling like 'what if he leaves me and goes?', 'what if he looses insterest on me?', 'what if things dont work out between us?' and all these what ifs and what buts sometimes used to aggrevate and i have previously doubted on him. Now why did all these thoughts aggrevate because during our college days (we were from same school same class but had different colleges) there was a girl in his group and out of fun he called her as 'hey 32B. hows you?'. Let me tell you i am Indian and although i am liberal we are grown up in a certain conservative manner. And so i got this imbibed within me. I couldnt tolerate this and so we had huge fights after this. He told me that i cannot trust him that i am questioning his character and so the fight continued. I had asked him to sever all contacts with her but he continued contact because the girl was a part of his so-called-group. So he said flatly that he cannot stop talking to her. He also invited her to his birthday party along with other friends and that pissed me off.
Now the next phase, we got jobs both in the same company. Although in different domains. In the same city. Although different buildings. Nevermind! we are a part of the same company. After he left college he severed all ties with her and i was happy and we moved on with our lives together. Everything was fine and then our relationshiptook a new turn. It became more intense. We started talking about the future, about our marriage, started making plans, planned our honeymoon destination and everything was great. This happened since 2014 May. Things were great between us. Since we are Indians so family plays a big role. In India is not like 2 people getting married its like 2 families getting married and that is indeed a huge problem. Anyway so we had to involve our parents for the marriage prep talk and all. During this time we both were so exhausted that we decided to go for a vacation. Let me tell u here that in India spending a night with a guy (boyfriend) before marriage is a complete NO NO. Here the girl's character is tarnished, she is seen in a very disgraceful manner. And i am completely aware of it. We both were rather. Nevermind we still went on the trip because we both had decided it and we both had our consent. We came back it was a lovely time we had spent but somehow or the other my parents got to know about it. And so u can well understand what must have happened. Although he was supportive the entire time but the pressure of marriage started because my mom and dad thought this episode would get repeated and i would have premarital sex and i would get pregnant and blah blah . And as the whole world knows premarital sex is a taboo in India. People judges a girl or decides the character of a girl here based on her virginity. Never mind! So there used to be constant brickering at my home and my parents stopped talking to me because i have committed this crime of going on a trip with him. And i got into depression. I used to be utterly frustrated as well and all those i used to dump on him and that used to strike up fights between us. Now it so happened that my parents decided to go to his parents house to take the relationship forward. The date that was fixed that day my ex went on a trip with his colleagues and so i had to hear a lot of things. A lot o emotional baggage i was carrying but since i didnt want him to miss the fun i never said anything to him, All i thought was let him come and then we can sit and talk. During this time also there was a change in my job. I was due to get transfer to another city because of job so i had only couple weeks to talk to him, to see him and this separation was ripping me apart inside. I dont know about him though. Now after he returns from the trip we met and then i asked him only one question. 'Will u give the extra effort that a long distance relationship demands?' To this he replied 'IF it workout it will workout if not it wouldnt'. After listening to this i was devastated. I mean after 10 yrs i was really not ready for this kind of a reply. I was expecting more like 'Dont worry. everything would be fine.' Then i see a picture of him from the trip standing very near to a girl (but yeah there was also another guy in the pic) and again all the insecurities crept up. This time my thought was 'what if i move out of the city and he gets emotionally attached to this girl. Also he is not willing to give the extra effort. So what if it really doesnt workout?' and all these thoughts led to me doubting him. I confronted him and he broke up. He said that he cannot be with a girl who doubts him with every other girl whom he meets. He said that he fears that i will remain the same after marriage and would never change so i will never let him be in peace. And so he broke up. Not even for one moment did he think about us. About what we had built all these years. Nothing. He said he lost all his feelings for me and that he hates me now. And so everything is over. I was completely in shock and so begged him to come back and to give me another chance but NO means NO to him. And so then he blocked him from everywhere. From whatsapp, from facebook, blocked my number on truecaller. So from everyday contact sharing all our dreams to no contact. And now i cry feel miserable i miss him so much, I cry all day. I feel blue. There were so much to tell him. There are so much that he still had to know. I even attempted suicide. but nothing could make him return. After 10 yrs of habit now suddenly i am out of that habit and what more hurts is - he is so happy without me. He doesnt even regret. Instead he is at peace now whereas i am in pieces.
Hope this helps!
waiting for your reply though.

What I felt most helpful was people who actually listened, asked questions, listened over and over again, were compassionate with the desperation and (self-)loathing. I reckon it's a real challenge to be empathetic with each person you are seeing, however, for those one manages to, it might well be life-changing.

I have my B.S. In Psychology and minor in Sociology. I would love to help u!!!
Done research studies, etc. MLA, MRS-4 if they haven't come out with a new one. It's been a while.
I think my depression and anxiety made me interested in Psychology.
Again, love to help!

BTW, just trying to recover from THIRD failed marraiage. Definitely can help with that.

Hi!! Unfortunately some people r done w the relationship before they let the other one know. So, though go on as though everything is status quo w relationship while they have actually moved in.
Girl, just take it from me. Going through 3rd divorce. Lost everything I worked a lifetime for including my kids because I was a stay at home mom for 16 year w degrees but NO Experience. Had a job and fell through.

To the OP, that is a noble endeavor. I wish you luck.

Observer, find a way to remove people's emotions and you will offer the world a miracle solution. At least the emotion of love. The dependence on it. The natural ingrained desire to be attached to a spouse of the opposite sex. The raw physical attraction we have to attractive people. We desire to be married and loved. Before that is achieved, we are lonely. Not fulfilled. Then, after marriage and likely a family is obtained, it all goes sour and the relationship comes to an end with terrible consequences, and we are back to loneliness. Love, happiness, and joy is just a dream and a fantasy to many. We humans are faulty and weak. As much as there is joy in our world, there is as much, if not more sadness.