Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My wife and I have been married 7 years, together 10. He have 2 young children together, and are separated. I've been for the most part a loving father and husband. I've made my share of mistakes, have never cheated or been abusive.
I was told months back prior to the separation that she just lost it for me, and wanted a divorce. I begged to work things out, get concealing, and asked what she needed. I had a list of things she said she felt was missing, that turned her off. Before and during our separation all of those things changed 100%. On mothers day I went all out for her, and finally she admitted that there had been an ongoing emotional affair that she had "cut off" due to overwhelming guilt. 2 days later she was out with the guy she spoke of. (She accidentally posted a pic of them on fb at bar closing then deleted it when she woke but it was too late) as time progressed she admitted that it was also a physical affair but that had started after the mothers day event. I told her I didn't care I wanted to work things out still to no avail. Not too long after on a visit with the kids she said she wanted to try. This lasted about 10 days. She has told me all along I'm a great man she doesn't deserve me and an amazing father. My question is why would a woman want to leave that? Or, at the very least make an attempt? I've left so much out I realize..
Therapy at this time is good idea it helps you thru the
Process Also divorce care.org is a good program.
Let yourself grieve your losses that is very important.
She sounds like a checked out spouse,
They have moved on and you do not exist.
Generally they are unhappy and then they
Look for trouble. They are usually selfish and
Not willing to work on things that take effort and
Self reflection and hard inner work.
My ex is trying to fix himself with relationships
Not look within and fix himself. We all mess up,
He got super nasty when he was cheating in his
Heart. He told me he loves me BUT not like he
should. Then he told me i did not know what love
was. This is After 30 years. He has been mean for
the last 13 years so it was past time things never
improved. He had a list a mile Long of resentments.
As others have said you can not make someone love
You when they dont anymore. That is the plain and simple
Explanation. If they dont love you they dont respect you
Anymore either so then they cheat. Most like a soft landing
They are not doing it alone. HUGS
http://husbandhelphaven.com/9-signs-your-wife-is-having-a-midlife-crisis/
The advice given was to focus on myself and let go. I wish I could just shake some sense into her. My heart breaks for both myself and our kids. I hope we all find peace.
all of this. Keep reaching out to good healthy
Loving People. HUGS
#Lee bee it's nice to hear I'm not alome. Man my wife has completely changed but I know there is a good heart deep down. If only I could reach her. If you need someone to talk to who can relate I'd like that:)
barry