We will be here for you.

You guys do need to talk.

Hugs, thoughts and prayers are with you!!

take a deep breath. don't go to talk with any expectations. it's just a conversation. relax. of course your feelings are all over the place because of the hormones changing so fast. try not to beg, plead and cry. try to be strong. don't make any decisions. if he asks any questions, just tell him you need to think about it. then that will give you time to think things over when your alone. try to visualize all of us with you and surrounding you with support, comfort, strength and love.

Yeppers, what churop said!

Agree with all above posters. You have lots of support here.

I'm with the rest on this. And, good luck.

Good advice from other posts. Try to stay calm, but be prepared for anything.

We will be right there with you!

Dracona - I just read your post twice. I want to point something out to you, because when we are hurt, I think it's easy for all of us to tell ourselves stories that support our hopes but may hurt us in the long run. I just don't want you expecting more than you might get.

In your post, you said that you texted him, I'm assuming to ask to talk. He "agreed" to speak with you.

But you titled this thread "HE wants to talk!"

I may be wrong, but it sounds like you initiated this because YOU want to talk. he only agreed to talk to you - that's is different than him "wanting" to talk to you.

Just don't get your hopes up sweety.

I know your nervous and anxious but you need to breathe and calm down.. the rapid heart beat and anxiety can not be good for the baby..

we will all be there with you.. but above all else try remaining calm.

What are your expectations with this meeting? Why do you want/need to talk to him in person? It might be a good idea for you to make a list of things to cover when together. It will give you something to focus on rather than being emotionally willy nilly. Is it possible that you could take another person with you? For support?

thank you all,
yes, i did text him. and ask to speak with him.
all this happened very suddenly... and it has been hard to deal with.
i have not been able to talk to him in person... and get his side of the story, without people in the background influencing him. he cant pretend im not pregnant, and he cant just ignore this all and it will go away. this baby was planned. it was not an accident. when we started having trouble, and he would not talk to me in an adult manner to get to a conclusion, conversations started becoming circular, and he would resort to calling me names, raising his hands at me, in my face, or walking away, after of course, calling me names. then come back and say that he left cause he was late to work, when he told me he didnt have to work that day, and start another argument by saying that i just didnt want him to work or care about his work... it was getting no where, and when i would refuse to participate in the yelling... he would get angry.
one day he walked away from me, i followed him, trying to say HEY, enough is enough, lets sit down, and talk, no yelling, we are having a baby we need to talk. he backed into me with his car for a response.
i called his naval command, i didnt know what else to do. i was stuck. i was pregnant, sick, couldnt work, and he was telling me he would not help me anymore.
HIS command told me to file a police report, and that they would talk to him, i had thought they would be helpful, maybe put us in counseling, but also have it on record if he DID go off the deep end and really hurt me, the car was dangerous enough, and i was weak from being so sick. HE sees my calling his command for help, as a horrible wrong against him. and told his command that i tried to trap him in the relationship. and he had been trying to end it for a long time. though this is our second baby, the first one i miscarried....
they were very helpful in this event while he was out to sea.
he wanted another one as much as i did.
all this happened over the course of two weeks really.
sure we argued, who doesnt? but this turned into fighting, and there was nothing i could do, i had to call someone. i had to make it stop,
i was so sick, i couldnt emotionally, or physically handle it.

i get mixed signals from him, and mixed stories from every one else. i want to know what his side is, so i can CHOOSE whether or not i want to accept it, but at least i will have something to choose.
talking to him will give me the ability to make a CHOICE, which is something that i did not get to do in all this. i was not heard, i was just shut out, and thrown to the streets, i have been sleeping on couches since. im tired of being ignored, and we do need to talk about the baby, as far as how much involvment he wants, and his family. i have to write a will, in case anything happens to me, and i dont want it to be a fight. i have offered him, that when i am done with college he can sign over his rights and not have to pay child support, cause by then i will be able to stand on my own quite well.
that way i dont have to deal with him for the next 18 years.