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He wants a divorce didn't see it coming

broken2230
broken2230

So after 7 years of marriage he tells me he wants a divorce and hasn't been happy for a very long time.  Come to find out he has been in a relationship with someone else for the last 2 weeks.  I want to save my marriage and he doesn't want to try.  We have 2 kids together and currently 2 months pregnant.  Should I kick him out of the house let him stay because it is easier on the kids. I really have no idea what to do.

Dandelion
Dandelion
I'd throw him out, hire an attorney and file.

The only thing bad for your kids in my opinion is a miserable, hurt, crying mom because dad comes and goes from one woman to another.

Trust me, I lived it.
ali36
ali36
Happened like that to me 10 years ago...I only had one child though. He was involved with someone he worked with. Said the same things to me that he your husband said to you.

I would kick him out & file immediately. Especially before he spends funds on other woman.

Stay strong and fight !!
broken2230
broken2230
It so hard to let go, I'm worried that my kids are going to have a difficult time adjusting. I didn't want to tell them till school was out so they didn't need to worry about this while trying to stay focus. In total I have 5 kids and the 3 oldest we have the most difficult time with it and being abandoned again I suppose.
Dandelion
Dandelion
I know what you're going through

I did not want my parents to split, but I would never want my mother to accept that. Ever.
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs, Tell him to go to his current flavour of the month and do not show up at your door again. My late mother always thought that my father would change. Yes, he changed for the worse. We grew up in a home that was full of anger and animosity. Even at dinner table we could feel that cold tension between them. I made the same mistake. And 25 years later, here I am a divorced woman. My mother never left him but she was just a shell breathing in the end. Get a therapist, financial advisor and a lawyer lined up. You will need to protect yourself. He will have to support you and the kids.
Peace.Serenity
Peace.Serenity
Im going through this EXACT same thing. I'm so HURT
broken2230
broken2230
I just want to wake up and this all be a dream. I want he to want to work on it and don't understand why he doesn't want to. I feel like I will never be able to trust another man since he had so much invested and still chose to walk away.
bakerjackie321
bakerjackie321
He doesn't want to work on it because he has his little distraction. Make no bones about it that is what she is. Kick him out and she will either take care of him or most likely tell him to quit whining and take care of himself. Best thing you can do when someone is cheating is give the dirty bird he is cheating with the responsibility of a relationship. Sit back and watch how long it lasts.
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