I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Not sure why he wants to cut the support in half, but support is based off of a calculation once it's all said and done, So hopefully soon you'll be able to get it maybe garnished from his paycheck...? Not sure where you are in the process, though.
So he can declare whatever he wants to but once it's all said and done the amount is the amount.

So sorry basnime. If he has agreed to the support legally, but is backing out, you should be able to do something about it.

As far as him hurting you emotionally. You have the control to stop that. I know this sounds ridiculous, but you can cut yourself off emotionally from him. That's what I just did with my wife. And to be honest, she has had three or four fits of outright sobbing over the last two days. Once they realize they can't control you or get a ruse out of you anymore, their whole perspective changes. They start to feel unloved, and hurt, just like they have done to us. Again, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Feel free to let me know if you ever need to talk.

MD my dad just told me the same thing. I fell hook line and sinker for his trap. Why why why? MD I need to talk more than you'll ever know.

It's going to be ok. I promise. Will shoot you a message.

I wouldn't get into arguments with him if you possibly can. Treat every communication with him like you were communicating with a co-worker. If he gets emotional/angry/harassing ignore him, shut him out, do not respond. Maybe eventually he will learn that being level headed gets results.

Courts will set support (17% equation here) and/or alimony. There isn't much escaping it for him.

Yes definitely disengage emotionally. I only talk to my husband through text or email now. Yesterday he asked me how the kids were over the weekend (he was out of town) - I just looked at him and said they were fine. I am trying to treat him like a live in nanny at this point and. It waste anymore of my emotional energy on him. I still cry and have outbursts when I talk to my friends but not in front of him anymore.

There's something going on in our state and the courts are backed up. I've been waiting for a date for months. The only other way to get a date is to file for divorce. I don't want to do that but he's forcing my hand on purpose.

Anger and hate has consumed my wife. It's a lack of emotional control. Why would anyone want to live like that? As was said, we have to increase our emotional state and become a better person. It is only positive and beneficial. It's like building an emotional shield in our mind to deflect the evil attacks our former loved spouse throws at us.

Yes Walmer, absolutely .

Was the support agreement verbal? If so - big mistake. Mine was, at his lawyer's urging. It was an unenforcable agreement, verbal agreements are just like thin air. My lawyer finally filed a motion with the court for support, which we went through last week - created and signed an agreement. Likely no way to get back support, but we're moving forward and if he reneges (which i think he did already - I had a family emergency this week and haven't been able to check if he did a deposit) then he's in contempt of court. Judges don't like that. He already had his hand slapped by the judge, this looks like it could be slap #2.

Why haven't you filed yet - are you still stuck in that place where you're not sure you want to divorce? Don't stay there too long, it's emotionally draining. Wait - you're both still living together? He's cutting support to the house he's living in? Eating the food in that house? This will also be financially draining until something legal is put in writing. My advice is to make sure that everything you do is above board. His "side of the street" is looking pretty dirty already, make sure yours is sparkly clean. Cutting support, or not maintaining the financial "status quo" is dirty. His actions are screaming "divorce me!".

We are not living together. I agree his actions are screaming divorce me. I am stuck emotionally. I don't want a divorce, he left. I feel now he is pushing my hand.

Yes of course this is a verbal agreement. He doesn't want to sit down yet because he's either waiting for money for a retainer or avoiding a child support order.

He probably then is pushing your hand. The status quo thing still holds, if both your salaries were used to pay marital bills, that should still be the case. He shouldn't just move out and leave you to support the family lifestyle on just one salary (and half his).

What I've found is this - if you're the spouse who files (plaintiff) then you may very well shoulder more of the legal financial burden. That has been my case, maybe that's his reason for not filing? It's kinda cowardly to try to force you to file when he's the one who wants it.

Very very cowardly!