Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I started to get some warm and reminscent feelings and to sort of forget the problems, as he is sort of buttering me up, and we've been back and forth so many times. And he's saying all this stuff (all text msgs) that he'd give his eyes to see me and his arms to hold me and on and on and to come see him in the hospital as he had surgery on a broken arm, and wanting to know how I'm doing and what is my life like and am I happy or sad and how's work and car and do I have a boyfriend or not.
So in the last 2 1/2 months since our breakup, there has been very little response on my part, because of the betrayal as the cause of an imminent breakup. He lies. He's rather sociopathic. He was still near and dear to me. I am not over him. So he casually mentions his GIRLFRIEND is picking him up, and I thank him for letting me know and tell him he has a lot of F-ing nerve to text me like that when he has a GF and not letting me know, and that he's moved on and I haven't and to leave me the F alone (which I've been saying yet I do give those mixerd signals, and which he's been saying "ok you'll never hear from me again" more than once just to not let go).
OK venting here. Hoping for a little kind insight or a hug. Thanks :) Really sad and crying over this. I don't make friends easily and he was my best friend and lover, and he makes friends and obviously moves on very easily.
So in the last 2 1/2 months since our breakup, there has been very little response on my part, because of the betrayal as the cause of an imminent breakup. He lies. He's rather sociopathic. He was still near and dear to me. I am not over him. So he casually mentions his GIRLFRIEND is picking him up, and I thank him for letting me know and tell him he has a lot of F-ing nerve to text me like that when he has a GF and not letting me know, and that he's moved on and I haven't and to leave me the F alone (which I've been saying yet I do give those mixerd signals, and which he's been saying "ok you'll never hear from me again" more than once just to not let go).
OK venting here. Hoping for a little kind insight or a hug. Thanks :) Really sad and crying over this. I don't make friends easily and he was my best friend and lover, and he makes friends and obviously moves on very easily.
I am sending you a hug for strength!
Please don't let this hurt you so badly for you are not alone. Most all of them are the same way, we suffer like hell and they just move on like you are and were no more important in their life than a someone next store. I makes me sick that they can carry on like this. Your story is the norm for the most part. They have more nerve than brains and that is what you have to keep in mind. There will come a time when you will see that all the hurt you suffered over him was such a waste of your time, don't let him take anymore, do not speak with him anymore. It really is the best way to get past them and the fasted, it worked for me and continues to.
Good luck Honey
Hugs and kisses
Lorie
You deserve better. No contact is the way to go.
I don't mean moving on to a new relationship..just moving on with my life.. accepting it was over and no longer wanting him back... he may be souless heartless ass for saying it the way he did... but he did you a favor.. don't talk to him anymore.. he has a girlfriend now so he is her problem from this moment forward... take yourself off the option list!!
If you just know you can not be with him for whatever reasons, you have to be able to not respond or flirt back. You should do what you feel is best for you and stick to it.
I hope your life works out as you want it to.
I agree this is a blessing in disguise. I am disgusted someone who was my boyfriend who now has another girlfriend would text someone else (me) like he did. Oh and his message he's just like he wished I'd come back. This is so unattractive to me that I guess I needed this slap in the face to let go of the past - the person I loved is not someone who is safe for me anymore. :)
Puffy eyes this morning, but going about my day.
It is the final letting go that has been something I've avoided because of the pain involved. It beats the pain of being with someone so inconsiderate and selfish.