Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'll start by saying that I found out he was seeing someone else and broke up with him.
He tried to talk about things left one msg and one text in which I ignored him for 3 weeks and then had a conversation that led to his being honest that he did want to see other people and was seeing someone before us and is still seeing her. He said he would rather have me though it would have to be an open relationship.
I broke up with him though it feels the other way around. If I waited until he broke up with me I don't want to think about how that would have felt.
I guess if he would have said yikes! I need to have someone else and I have started dating new people and I need you to know.
I suppose that would have been easier who knows?. All I know is I miss our times together and every time I try to meet someone else I get pissed off that its not him.
I'm angry about him though I miss him terribly and not sure how to shake him off my back. I have not contacted him since last conversation 3 months ago and blocked his number not because I think he'd call me again but because Id rather feel number blocked than the pain of him actually not. Which I feel is 100% the case. We were together for a year and a half.
I feel like the only thing Iv got going for me about this is the fact that I have not tried to call or text or e-mail or show up or go near or try to run into him. All have crossed my mind though I feel a sense of accomplishment that I have not done any of the above. No calling hanging up nothing. I thank G_d for that for we all know how much worse the healing process is once we engage in such un healthy behavior.
Time is the great healer and if I don't start to feel better over this soon? I'll take that as a sign that I might need some emotional help for reasons that must go deeper than this that this is just the only thing I can blame it on. I would like any advise on how to develop new feelings for someone new I feel like my feelings for him are robbing me of that. How long do I need to work on myself before I am healthy enough to be with someone else? I want to be with someone and I need to move on and get with someone who wants me that makes the most sense to me. I don't want to keep missing him. Advise please!
He tried to talk about things left one msg and one text in which I ignored him for 3 weeks and then had a conversation that led to his being honest that he did want to see other people and was seeing someone before us and is still seeing her. He said he would rather have me though it would have to be an open relationship.
I broke up with him though it feels the other way around. If I waited until he broke up with me I don't want to think about how that would have felt.
I guess if he would have said yikes! I need to have someone else and I have started dating new people and I need you to know.
I suppose that would have been easier who knows?. All I know is I miss our times together and every time I try to meet someone else I get pissed off that its not him.
I'm angry about him though I miss him terribly and not sure how to shake him off my back. I have not contacted him since last conversation 3 months ago and blocked his number not because I think he'd call me again but because Id rather feel number blocked than the pain of him actually not. Which I feel is 100% the case. We were together for a year and a half.
I feel like the only thing Iv got going for me about this is the fact that I have not tried to call or text or e-mail or show up or go near or try to run into him. All have crossed my mind though I feel a sense of accomplishment that I have not done any of the above. No calling hanging up nothing. I thank G_d for that for we all know how much worse the healing process is once we engage in such un healthy behavior.
Time is the great healer and if I don't start to feel better over this soon? I'll take that as a sign that I might need some emotional help for reasons that must go deeper than this that this is just the only thing I can blame it on. I would like any advise on how to develop new feelings for someone new I feel like my feelings for him are robbing me of that. How long do I need to work on myself before I am healthy enough to be with someone else? I want to be with someone and I need to move on and get with someone who wants me that makes the most sense to me. I don't want to keep missing him. Advise please!
Our reasons for doing something matter, if for instance we feel that it is absolutely necessary to be in a relationship , Why? Why would I want to . In the past is was for attention, affection, to make yourself feel whole again. I feel that any relatioship created out of a need to fullfill yourself is just not a real true relationship , it there purely for yourself because you need it,want it, miss it. In the long run, your just going to hurt yourself or the other person.
I hope you find peace within yourself, and realize that you have value , you are loved , and you don't have to be in a relationship with a man to have these feelings. Peace and blessings