Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Needsomehelpplease 03/22/2018

Yesterday my girlfriend of 2 and a half years blinsided me with a breakup out of nowhere. Nothing was done or said just that something was missing and that she needed time for herself. She was my bestfriend and my person to talk to. Last night while trying to sleep I woke up in hot sweats and felt sick to my stomach then lied there missing her so much. It sounds dramatic and cliche but I lost my only person and the person who got me most. I literally feel like half of myself just got taken away from me. Again it sounds cliche but literally everthing reminds me of her, the little gifts and pictures that used to make me happy now make me so sad that it physically hurts, I am usually not a very emotional person to start with so this is just ripping me up, and I keep thinking ill get a text or wake up from this awful dream but I know that I wont and that is hurting me even more. Any advice or words of strenght? This is my first time on a site like this And im not too sure how it works.

Ghostwolf04 03/22/2018

It sounds like this probably wasn't out of nowhere for her. She had to have been feeling like something wasnt working for awhile. I would tell her how you feel and ask her if you can fix it. It sounds like you don't have very good communication skills with each other. Fights can be healthy and often you will feel better and get to know each other better if you do pick a fight. Its better than leaving you hanging with no closure. Sometimes girls say they need space when we feel confused or like we have lost our way. She probably hurts just as bad as you do, but maybe ask her what you can do for her? You say you feel like you lost part of yourself, maybe one or both of you gave and sacrificed too much for this relationship. I would look into counseling or couples therapy or ask someone to help you with a communication workshop so to speak. I hope you can work things out. If not im sorry. Just take time to heal.

Needsomehelpplease 03/22/2018

Where I am confused is that we did have very good communication skills and we talked a lot and talked over issues a lot. I think that is why it is hurting so much is because we did let each other know when we were feeling off. She made it sound like there is no hope, and I just don't know what to do with myself.

ttsi4 03/22/2018

I got dumped unexpectantly too last night. I know the pain you’re talking about. It feels like an ice pick to the heart. I haven’t ate all day, and got an hour of sleep. It is literally the hardest feeling to experience. I wish you the best with recovering and moving on.

Needsomehelpplease 03/22/2018

Thank you so much, I thought that I was the only one who hasn't eaten, It is like whenever i see a reminder of our relationship my stomach drops and i feel nausous, I feel lost as to what to do with myself.

JayBay 03/22/2018

Me too - but I was ghosted! She won't communicate except to tell me to stop harassing her - so I stopping trying to find the reason.

But I now know I was codependent and smothered her. So I am getting help. Talking to a therapist has helped me greatly. Just know that it will get better with time and move on...

Needsomehelpplease 03/22/2018

Thank you for the words, I think I was too co dependent but that kills me to think of how i could have fixed it but never realized until it was too late.

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