(((hugs)))) crying is good....please feel free to use this shoulder. I have not experienced this,probablly never will(sorry)...but cry anyways.jsut wanted you to know I'm here for you.I've worked alot of hours lately,so sorry if my typing is "unusual"

I'm sorry. I love the quote I heard at DivorceCare about being ambushed by grief- you don't see it coming and BAM!
Give in to those tears if you need to. I had a good cry earlier and felt a little better afterwards.
Take care

Had it happen, can't explain it, makes NO sense!

Nope,doesnt make any kind of sense. I think I have criedmore in the past few weeks thanI have all year and I have no idea why. I say go with it. Your mind body and spirit all need to release and detox. They just dont always happen to be at the same time. (((hugs)))

no doubt. just when you think youre doing great whamo! it whacks ya in the head! Feel better!

I haven't missed my stbx but I've been crying again lately. I'm back to "How in the hell did I get here. How did this all go so wrong." I know it's because the waiting period is over and the divorce is moving forward...quickly. But it's still frustrating to feel like I'm taking steps backward and having feelings I thought were in my past.

Hopefully those feelings won't last too long.

Yeah me too today all day. Then he had to go and be nice. It's so damn hard on holidays.

I get momentary flashes of sadness. Sadness for what I lost and sadness for my wife and what she has made of her life. But I try not to dwell on it.

It is all part of the healing process.

I have had it happen to me...I think sometimes it might be trigged by many ways. Stress, loneliness and maybe fear. I bet ya its pretty common. It takes some time to over come losing your comfort zone. I remember reading something by Harville Hendrix. He talks about we search all our lives to replace the comfort of being in the womb. Safe and warm and cared for. I really believe we can all have this feeling again. Working on getting that alone, then with someone else. Its a tough world with many stresses. I keep hearing be kind to yourself, and don't beat yourself up. Go ahead and feel and cry and do what ya gotta do. Its all about the healing...and learning. I feel for ya, cause I went through it for a couple days myself last week.

oh yeah just when you thinking everything is going good then BAM, here comes those emotions again. I've been dealing with this all week, hopefully it will pass.

I think it is normal. I haven't been sep that long yet, but once in awhile I have the same feeling and get mad at myself because I even have the thoughts of missing him, especially after the way he treated me. What could I be missing? I would cry then get mad at the same time because I couldnt figure it out why I was even doing it. It must be part of the healing like everyone says.

Every day is soooo different. I can go weeks and then all of a sudden I remember something nice ( there were some of those moments) and it sets me off to the point I want to go back!! I just talk to myself in the mirror and remind myself of the reasons WHY if left, then the stupid little memory dosent' seem so important anylonger!

have felt this wat to although had put it down to the context of converstions weve had whilst finally sorting the house

Its been almost 6 months since he left and though I am no where near the emotional wreck I was for those first few months. I find that lately I feel myself slipping backward. I look around the home we shared and think of the life we built together and can't help but feel so much sadness for all I have lost.

its happened to me too, makes NO sense at all to me. Just realize that emotions don't always make sense and hang in there, it will pass :)