Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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wiggywango 10/31/2013

I have accepted that it's over, I know it's the right thing. I know I deserve better than someone who is emotionally abusive, who dismisses my wants and needs, who only cares about himself, who offers no support, compassion, loyalty or caring. So why can't I let go of the days when I felt like I found "the one"? Even though I know now looking back it wasn't real...he wasn't real. How do you get over the death of a dream?

deleted_user 10/31/2013

Because in our loneliness, we overlook all the bad and zoom in on the good times.

The bad times clearly overwhelm the good times but we tell ourselves to overlook that.

We need to have a red stop sign in our mind that when we go back to the good times, we pop up the red stop sign in our mind and say to ourselves "HEY, THIS GUY WAS SO BAD, EVEN ROACHES WOULDN'T LET HIM JOIN THEM."

deleted_user 10/31/2013

You get over the death of a dream by giving yourself time to heal - by moving through it and feeling it. Just keep reaching out.

xoxo

deleted_user 10/31/2013

That is the beauty of dreams, they can be so real and yet at some point we have to wake up from them. We grieve over the loss of failed dreams but the nice thing is that some dreams do come true and we are always having new dreams. I had to accept that the man I thought was the one for me wasn't and it felt as if my whole world was gone and dead and it still does. But I don't have to focus on the future right now, just today and that is better than nothing. You can do this because look how much you have faced already.

deleted_user 10/31/2013

I like your response. I keep going back and forth. I will take your tips and use them. I have to remind myself how bad he was. I am talking about the guy I dated recently. When I contact him, I feel worse. I need to remind myself how that feels and not do it.

deleted_user 10/31/2013

I'm going through the same exact thing. It's such a confusing and heart breaking time. I'm right there with you and am always here to talk whenever you please. Chances are, you feel as lonely as me at times.

All my best to you

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