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having a bad bad day

nix192
nix192
im really struggling today.i fell like im going cold turkey and need a fix.i cant consontrate on anything i just want to curl up and die.i cant help thinking of him back with her laughing and having the time of thier lives while im dying inside.how can he tell me he wants to stay in touch and keep me as a friend and then not contact me for days and his phones switched off.i did nothing but love him and be there for him and this is how i get treated.
deleted_user
deleted_user
((hugs))

thats the way it works, they want to be friends, hah, only if its for their convenience.
No contact rule hon, it works.
Concentrate on yourself, find things to do that you like, maybe get a hobby if you dont already have one, talk on here, we're all here with some experience, a listening ear and some advice if you want it.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
I think many of us have had thoughts like that about our ex's and what they were doing. Just laughing at us and so on, but just remember, what your perception of what one does, is not always the way it is. and many times, it isn't

I am sorry tho you are feeling down today. I hope you get to feelin' better soon.

*bear hug*
nix192
nix192
thankyou so much.just knowing you are all there makes me feel heeps better.I am struggling with no contact but i also know it has to be done for me to heal.
deleted_user
deleted_user
((((nix))))
No contact is hard...I am trying more limited contact with my stbxH until I can heal more and we are able to pursue our friendship.
So sorry you are struggling today!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know what you are going through. It is so hard. Sometimes you think you just can't go on. It has been Dec 2008 since he left me and it still seem so recent. Thinking about them and I found out that they have gotten married. I keep holding on and I'm so happy I have all of you at DS. You are not alone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hugs to Nix and alio. ((((((Nix)))))) ((((((alio)))))))
patti22
patti22
They most likely aren't laughing and having a really great time....but that doesn't really help....does it.

It's not about them, it's about how torn up you feel inside. I wish I could make it easier, but I can't. Just hang in there Hugs.
nix192
nix192
Opps i slipped up yesterday while i was browsing the dating site i met him on who should pop up as rejoined but him.We did chat for a while he said he had so many mails hed thought hed give it another go(nice).He asked how i was but i really didnt want to tell him how depressed i am so i just said sorry i gotta go.Went back on this mornig and he comes on again so like an idiot i say hi and he just ignores me.I have to try to be strong and do no contact because even though it hurts to start with i cant deal with these up and down emotions.
MimiL
MimiL
Im so sorry....I know that place only too well.....im glad for you that you are here....there is so much pain for you right now..its so hard...the only thing that helps me is no contact....whenever I hear from him its like tearing the scab off a wound....I hate it....I hope you feel better soon....we all deserve to be happy....hugs to you!