Agreed. It's not a contest or a race to see who can move forward fastest.

I agree...we're all on our own time frame. No one is going to tell ME when I should or should not get "over things". There is a fine line between embracing the sadness and than living it. I mentioned this in another thread...it was the hardest thing for me to walk that line. But ultimately....I agree...I am forever changed....my girls lives are forever changed.

All we can do is do the best with the cards we've been dealt with. Control what we can and let the other stuff run its course. This isn't what we wanted for our kids or for ourselves...but we do the best we can with what we have.

When something like this happens you are supposed to be forever changed. There are lessons to learn, there are moments of grief and moments of triumph, and it isn't a race. It took my mom years to find herself after her and my biological father got divorced, but she did, and she is with a man who is good.
I didn't think it would be such a rollercoaster of emotions to do this, and I only started a week ago on this road.

Yup. agreed. although we come together and can relate to one another in a way that others cannot, We, as individuals, have differences in the way that we deal with our personal situations, and emotions which also means we have differences in time.

TheI...only a week...well welcome to this place. I hope you find some good information and support from many on here. Yes, you hit the proverbial nail on the head, rollercoaster of emotions. Be aware that is what you will experience but we will be here to help guide you along the way. Many of us have been here longer than others, but many are filled with good advice. Sorry you have to be here under the circumstances. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I had no idea until it happened to me, but nancy is right, we all came together and can help where others cannot. (((TheIdiot))))...I am sorry but I hated to write that bc you are not...just something went awry.

Given the choices that I made prior to being here I would wish this on myself. I'm ready to enjoy life. I wish my to be ex all the happiness in the world, just with someone else. I'm excited for life.

I so agree. That's why the word "stuck" shouldn't even be in your vocabulary. Time is the most effective medicine for all of us, and even when we think we're falling backward a few steps, or haven't made any progress in a few weeks, we find out later when looking back and taking stock, that we've been moving forward all along.

It's a matter too, not just of a broken heart mending, but betrayals to process, losses to be coped with, voids to slowly fill with life again.

I know it's hard. If you're still breathing, still hugging your kids, still working, you're doing fine. Keep going.