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spotlessmindhelp 07/10/2017

this will be very long but someone please read it.

Me and my ex were extremely close, we spent almost everyday together we texted everyday called eachother every night all that. I never did anything without him knowing or without him being there. We were best friends and it hurts me because it took us a long time to get to this point of the relationship and now it's all gone. He was my ONLY Friend when I say my only friend I mean my only friend. He still had all his friends but I had to leave all of mine Bc he wanted me to. We used to argue a lot towards the end of the relationship Bc I had a lot of resentment towards him I guess I took out my anger of how he treated me like his property and I made a lot of accusations as to why he would do the things he did to me. Now on Monday he came over to my house and he started to hide his phone from me as a joke but I've told him not to do that Bc it's not funny first of all and also why would you wanna start an argument like that? Anyways I got very mad at started going off on him he gets up and starts leaving my house and I get up and start literally chasing after him saying sorry and all this stuff. The next day was the 4th and I was invited to his house for a cookout by his dad. He picked me up and was very distant at first and then we started talking and we were fine again. We were acting like normal and cuddling and kissing and laughing together and then we ended up having sex. Then the night came and I had to go home and that's when he dropped the real bomb on me that his mom had said she didn't like me and the relationship and he has to leave me Bc IM too controlling . I couldn't believe what I was hearing.. he lied to me and made me think we were fine ?? Idk how to deal w this pain, I'm completely alone with no one to talk to or anything I just sit here and cry and miss him and miss him as my bestfriend

Spr167 07/10/2017

Wow this is deep and really tough! Somehow I don't think it's the end of you two and it sounds like if he is controlling and he States his mom wants you guys to break up his mom must be jealous of the relationship between you two. Because she is losing control of him and she thinks she's losing control of him to you which is not true! - I don't think it's the end of you two. - you can do one of two things. - call his mother and talk to her like an adult and tell her that you are under the impression that she doesn't want you dating her son because you are too controlling. Let her know that her assumptions of you is not correct you love her son and care for him. Just be your normal self and not dramatic. - then I'd give him a break to come back to you and I would get some new hobbies and maybe even try to reconnect with some old friends to stay busy until the relationship it's back up. But I don't believe that it's over between you guys I just sense it. If he calls you upset about you talking to his mom just tell him you wanted to clear the air with her and you two are just taking some time to cool off from eachother.

FamilyGirl1967 07/10/2017

I am so sorry that you are going through this, I just went through this myself. It's been 3 months since my break up and he already has a girlfriend. I was head over heels in love with him in the beginning but now I can't stand him. I have good days and bad days. My advice if you don't mind is to look up what a psychopath is because it's helped me understand what was happening in our relationship. Also after you read up on that please cause this helped me by going through all of my texts on my phone I have texts from all the way back to 2015 from him All of this will help, plus I go to church again and I have already made 4 friends since my break up. I don't have anyone either in my life. Please let me know how you are doing after you read this article.

mjc522 07/10/2017

I went through something similar. Her mom didn't like me and was always trying to poison the well. She would always tell my exGF how she liked how I was so good to her but she didn't approve of me because I didn't make enough money, my parents were divorced, and I had kids and been divorced. (Her perfect daughter had been divorced too but whatever). Anyway the moral of the story is it gets old after a while. And yeah I still miss my ex and am really hurt but I just remind myself that I don't have to deal with her narcissism and her pretentious parents.

Lauradlou 07/22/2017

Wow, this situation sounds hard and I am sorry you had to experience it. Breakups are never easy, but maybe this is a good thing for now. This could be a really good chance for you to make some new friends, reconnect with your old friends and start building some healthy relationships again. Maybe it would be a good idea for you to process through this situation with a counselor too. I wish you the best of luck and am so sorry about the situation. I will pray for you to have strength and for God to put new healthy people in your life!

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