i havent noticed that of late, no. it may be because its not what i am focused on in my healing right now - ive been more focused on the power of words and their effects right now.
maybe too i have talked to my exhusbands ex and she offered some great insight into him that i could only see as truth after he decided to leave. she has moved on with her life in leaps and bounds. so not that i would care one way or the other at this point but i dont see any danger there. i guess my thought is if they knew what he/she was when they left them before, then they deserve what they are getting back into again with them. does that make sense?
i am sorry you see this as alarming - feel free to discuss further. we are listening. take gentle care. xoxo

it sounds like a lot of people must have poor social skills to be going backwards so much.

thanks you guys for the responses. I just wonder if there was a reason why you broke up in the first place why go back? Maybe its just me. I think some people think as years go by you change and then can start over being the new people you are now. I just see that many men and women are looking up their ex's trying to reconnect. It happened to me.

Happened to me, too. E-mail affair started on-line. /Then they met- then more email-- he will always love her- can't imagine not having her in his life-- why after 27 years of marriage? Fooled me-lies to himself-- I'm moving on...

The online social networks do allow you to contact people you haven't seen for years. It's can be fun to catch up with someone you haven't seen for a long time .... but it can also spark old feelings and make some people want to complete some "unfinished business". Keep the lines of communication open in your relationship and these temptations lose their appeal.

I have not noticed because I am towards the end of recovering from an 8 year abusive, pathological relationship and focussing the the positive energy given to me by my current boyfriend.

Nope, haven't noticed that. Have noticed that a lot have lost their ex's due to cheating, abuse, addictions.

I have noticed there are a lot of break up due to cheating, but not cheating with the ex.

However I did hear on the radio the other day, a list of warning signs that your marriage (relationship) is threatened for divorce, and near the top was if you ex started up a relationship or was spending a lot of time with their ex. Which I thought was interesting. It was a list compiled by a divorce lawyer (or firm)?

I've had one boyfriend go back to his ex after he dated me (he ended up marrying her), he was the guy I dated before I met my ex husband. No regrets there (breaking up with that guy), I broke up with him for the same reason his exgf (and now wife) broke up with him, he was too critical.

The last guy I was in a relationship with, and still friends with, I suspect is still in love with his ex wife. I think he knows he'd be miserable if he were to get back together with her, yet I know he has this lingering hope, that one day she'll wake up and suddenly change. Which will never happen, as she has been like this for years (a taker).

Thats why I am open for poly relationships.

Gsch, ask Polly if she has a sister for me.

I love the Triple 7 and G dialogue...

IDK about this site in particular, but I'm hearing more about breakups. I think it's probably financial strain caused by the economy. My STBXBF tried to get back with his last baby mama but she rejected him. She's smarter than I thought.