How long since your divorce? They say
It takes 3 years to normalize.

You might not have grieved your marriage
That takes time and working thru all the
Feelings and emotions. I was in for 30 years
And i have tons of them many unresolved.

Some times Its delayed grief which is worse
because nobody Understands where you are
coming from long after the divorce.

Also what happened with me when i go away
Now i get triggered badly. We mostly travelled
Together he usually drove. Not always but i have
Been on three get aways since the divorce and i
was triggered a Lot of the time. Twice was my at
My family Once a place we would go to. HUGS

Grief is not a linear thing. There are lots of things to grieve in a divorce besides your ex-spouse. You can grieve the loss of a dream, the loss of a lifestyle, the loss of security, the loss of friends. Do you think counseling would help?

We are only going on 5 months, it is so weird, I am happy that I have chosen the new life but it is hard on some days. What do you do when you feel down and out mirandac?

Samantha I didn't lose any friends but yes I did give up my lifestyle. I gave up my house. I loved my house but it is not practical to live in a place that big by myself. I let him have the house. I do not know if counseling would help. I am not sad all of the time its just every now and then when I go camping in places where we use to somewhat go. Im not sure if it is even me missing him or missing the fact that I had my family and now they are all gone. I sometimes fell all alone. I went for 24 years raising babies and being married (unhappily married). I think it is hard that I dont have my family anymore. Now that my kids are grown up I see them like once a week but I miss them tons. They are 21 and 25.

Grief does not care if it was good or bad it is
The loss of your dreams, if there was abuse
It makes things more tangled up and confusing
While you are trying to detach from him.

Personally i would say you are still grieving
And that takes time. I loved divorce care.org
For helping with that plus my therapist.

Rebound relationships are usually not the answer
Before you are healed. Some people Jump right in
before they are even divorced yet. What i heard is
Wait a year minmum after the divorce or until you
Are truly ready.

I can not imagine coping with a new relationship
Right now, i am not done grieving and still have
Some depression. First you need to be done with
The old and put it to bed, get comfortable as a
Single and get centered again. At least thats my
Thinking. HUGS

You're only 5 months divorced? That's not long at all. It takes time, just how much is individual. You have the double whammy - divorce AND empty nest syndrome. I'll be empty nested in two years, and I'm almost besides myself about the prospect of it. My oldest will be leaving for college in 7 days, and I know the entire mood of the house will change with his absence (stbx is still lurking here, and youngest is 16 and very independent). I think when you're finally out of a bad marriage, the empty nest thing hits home even more forcefully. Hang in there.