I think if you're constantly being told what to do by someone, then you have a sense of wanting to rebel when others try to tell you what to do. I think it's pretty natural if you're living your life controlled by someone else. It can all get to be too much. I found that when I first entered therapy for codependency and learned what it was, I could see that I overdid for everyone in my life, including my boss. Once I started exerting authority over myself at home, it inadvertently started to carry over to work, and I had to check myself. Learning to stand up for yourself is a good thing, but it needs to be toned down in the workplace, especially if you are a member of the support staff like I am!

Yep, I know what you mean. You are tired of being controlled. You need to be your own person and when someone else asks you to do something, I believe you are really addressing the person in your relationship what you really feel about him controlling you. Does that make sense?

I am feeling somewhat the same way. It's like I've had enough and I don't want to take anything anymore! Also, the stress of your relationship will spill into other things in your life, as much as you try not to let it.

Yes,I am hoping this goes away too!!

Youve likely developed a sense of need to assert your independence and free will.
I was like this for a brief period after my marriage ended.
It will probably pass as you learn to relax and become more comfortable with a new normal :)

I would agree that it stems from the relationship but for me, it was more of the fact that I was "spent" on what was happening. Meaning, I was pissed at what happened and my reaction to others was because of that. My ex never told me what I could or couldn't do, except for when we decided to take vacations, we always went to her folks to visit, but it was the fact I was so pissed, frustrated and all those other things that came along with the breakup, that had me feeling like I did towards others, even if those others really didn't do much wrong to me. I was just over done from what I was going through so I found myself with much hate in general for anything and everyone, where I never felt or acted like that before.

I can relate. I agree with the comments already made.

Learning to take care of yourself can be exhausting instead of taking care of others. Emotionally we learn to drop the being pissed at everyone else for not taking care of us(take can look like everything from taking out the garbage, moving clothes from the washer to the dryer, running to the store for groceries, remembering your birthday or anniversary, putting kids to bed, to all the things that have to be done at work) Learning to not feel guilty for not taking care of them is also a high learning curve. ie: I work in the helping profession and right now families are asking for help. I finally, after 3 trips to a house for paperwork for Thanksgiving and Christmas help, I finally said I'm done. If they aren't willing to help even that much, I'm done. This is unusual for me. Today is the start of a week off for Thanksgiving. I'm cleaning my own house, I'm shopping for my own groceries, I'm running my own errands that nurture me and my family. I am NOT delivering meals all this next week to needy families, I'm not shopping for other families, I'm not doing alot of things I've done for 25 years. It feels great!!!! And guess what...I'm not pissed, angry or upset at work, my boss, my colleagues or other families.

Go do something that nurtures yourself today!