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Hard to see my life without him

ElenaD
ElenaD

After about 8 years of relationship, my husband decided we should break up. He has always been my everything, my support every step of the way but he just got tired now. I have always been an introvert person and stubborn and never tried hard enough to change myself. This created a gap along the years between us. Lately he connected with another woman and he is really determined to move on with his life even if it is hard. He says it would be better to do it now before things get much worse between us.


My life now has no purpose. I am crying a lot, little sleep and not much food. I guess everybody here is familiar with this. I am starting to have panick attacks. Not serious and manageable but energy drainers. I have started to look for a psychologist as I know I need help. 


I just wanted to share with you my story and to make new friends that can empathize with me. 


Thank you for listening!

SBC1238
SBC1238
Elena, I am here for you. My husband as well wanted me to make a lot of improvements. I felt he should love me for me and while I did make some improvements, it wasn't good enough. Don't let this bring you down he was attracted to you from the beginning for a reason, and if he is not the one for you someone else is. XOXO
BrighterDaysAhead
BrighterDaysAhead
Its tough to lose your "everything". The lack of apetite, sleep and crying is all part of the process. As i was told by my counsellor, talking about your feelings is crucial. It has also really helped that I realized that I am not alone in how I felt (The way you are feeling right now). I miss her everyday also. She was my everything. Have faith in yourself, that you are ok, that you are worthy! if not for him, for someone else. Keep your head up and smile. You are strong and will get through this!!
sonya0378
sonya0378
I'm going through the same thing. (but my husband didn't find another woman...he was just over his life with me). It's incredibly hard...in fact I'm trying to find a new place to live as we speak. It's going to take some time. I too barely sleep, no appetite, don't want to do anything. I'm here if you need anything...so sorry for your hurt :(
bluelab97
bluelab97
Elena,

Like you mentioned in your post, I am an introverted person as well which I think played a factor in what broke up my marriage of almost 12 years up. My husband was definitely my other half, I couldn't imagine my life without him but time has a way of SLOWLY healing things. While I am still grieving the loss of my marriage, I know that there are brighter days ahead of me, just without my husband. I am sorry you are going through this pain but know that people on here are very supported and will help any way they can. Sending many hugs to you!
ripped_my_heartout
ripped_my_heartout
Sorry your going thru this. I am going thru the same thing right now. Not eating no sleep, anxiety, depression it has not been fun. Seeking therapy will help. I was feeling better until the hoiliday came. I was going every 2 weeks but due to holidays I don't go back until Jan 16th. Talking defenently helps. Just to talk to someone about it gives you some relief. In my case we split because she had an affair. Sometimes I think I can look past that but I wasn't given a chance to work it out. The more time iv been away from her ( been 10 weeks now) the more I realize how bad she has treated me the last year. In time we will get better. I feel your pain.
ElenaD
ElenaD
Thank you all for all your comments and encouragements. They really touched my heart. It really feels conforting to talk to people who share the same pain, same thoughts, same feelings.
Today I shall help him pack his things as the day after tomorrow will be moving away. I hope I will not be having more panick attacks or anything. It is hard to find your strenght when the source of strenght is leaving you. It is hard to keep my chin up and smile when the source of my happyness is going away. I will be here and try to talk to you more.
Sorry for everybody's pain and suffering. I feel you all and hope you are doing well along this hard, time consuming process.
Thank you for listening.
Koko
Koko
I think many of us are going through the same thing. 10 years and 2 kids and my husband is just done. It's been a hard few months but I am coming out of it finally. You will too - just take care of yourself!
Dragonfly21
Dragonfly21
Yea, these situations suck! My back story is my now ex-husband (divorce finalized in 2016) up and left me in 2013. We dated a year and a half before we married. The courtship and first year of marriage could only be described as storybook. Too good to be true. Second year of marriage ushered in drama. He started staying out late, coming in the next morning. We started marriage counseling. Things didn't improve. He moved in with his girlfriend, until she eventually kicked him out. He lied to her, too.
I could go on with the gory details but I'm here to say that it gets better! That first year was tough. Things got better when I started to focus on improving my life situation.