Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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ripped_my_heartout 01/03/2017

I really thought I was moving forward. The holidays really did a number on me mentally. Now that they are over I'm going to try to improve myself. Just weighted my self. Iv lost 37 pounds in 9 weeks I look like crap. I'm going to try my best to eat right and get out of this house. Iv got an email from my family lawyer, holidays are over back to reality. I'm not going to read it until later tonight. I don't need the stress right now. I'm going out to the YMCA going in for a light work out and spend some time in the therapeutic pool. I need it but I don't want to go, I don't feel like being around people but I'm forcing myself to go. I need to clear my head a little. I hate opening emails because every time I do I find something else about her that she has done or is doing. I just want it all to end so I can move forward. I really want to change my mood on here to ok but I'm far from it. I feel like just going outside and just start screaming out loud. I feel like iv been holding everything in. Putting on a brace face for my kids. I feel like I'm about to burst and I don't know what to do. So off to the YMCA maybe it will help.

mirandac 01/03/2017

Its a long journey out when they act
Shameless and have no remorse. Hang
In there keeping doing the next best
Thing then the next. Thats how i got thru
The divorce and separation. I still ride
the roller coaster post divorce. HUGS

Koko 01/03/2017

Good for you for getting out. If you need to let it out you should! I have screamed out and cried in my car so many times.

lonelyinside 01/03/2017

I know, back to reality. I don't know how to face it except get up and take one day at a time. Right now I'm not ready to get up and get out there yet, but after I process all this grief I think I want to get out and start doing things that focus on me and my wellbeing and I want to restore my self confidence. We'll get there. We will.

thiscantbeit 01/03/2017

I commend you on taking these steps to change your circumstance. This is not easy, but you are doing it everyday. If you need to cry, give yourself the time and space to do it. Go into the shower and ball your eyes out if you have to. We are grieving and going through withdrawal. Every part of us is feeling the effects of it. A few months into my situation I started taking a B complex vitamin. In my research I read that because of the effects my circumstance was having on me, my brain and body were going through a chemical imbalance. The B complex vitamins are designed to help that imbalance. That was a small thing but it was something. Everyday I struggle to function. I feel so detached from everything and everyone. But I couldn't allow myself to ball up and die (as much as I wanted to do that). I've worked too hard to allow myself to risk any of it. Love, relationships, I don't see any of it for me. I'm too afraid. But that doesn't mean that I will stop living. And that's just it. I'm trying to find my way so that I can feel alive and not feel that I'm just existing. I don't know how I'm going to get there but, as hard as it is, we have to believe that it is going to get better. Keep moving forward. Every step counts. I will be praying.

eribroken123 01/03/2017

I know how it feels. Today my mother in law call me to tell me that she knows how I feel and that the only thing left is to pray for a better resolution. I know she mean well but I know that it will not get better I know is DONE and like you I feel like I do t want to eat sleep wake up and do anything I feel with so much weight on me

ripped_my_heartout 01/03/2017

Thiscantbeit- you are so right. I never thought of it that way. Yes it is withdrawal. I miss the hugs and kisses. Holding hands while walking. I miss the affection, the intimacy our casual conversations. Defenently withdrawal, loves like a drug.
I will try that B complex vitamin. Worth a try can't hurt. Thanks.

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