Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
This person wrote the book "There is Life After What's-His-Name" - great title, huh?! I found this book to be the best one I have read about getting over a breakup - and I have read a lot of them!
AUTHOR SPEAKER- SUCCESS COACH
Susan Russo is President of Pinnacle Thought Inc. Publisher for books and resources which provide inspiration, self-empowerment and the tools and strategies to help move you toward personal success and fulfillment. Susan is the editor of "You've Got Power" newsletter and author of "There Is Life After What's-His-Name" and The 7 Keys to Unlock the Power Within You.
AndIm also a woman who has lived through all of the emotions, pain, and decisions that go along with ending a relationship. Because I knew I wasnt the only person who struggled with the pain of ending a relationship I decided to make a difference in others lives, and this book is the result of that passion.
I have lived and taught the principles in this book and I am now focused on communicating these principles to others, through my writings, speaking and coaching individuals.
If you are interested an email or phone consultation with Susan or if you would like to book her for a speaking engagement send an email to susan@whystay.co
Her web site is: http://www.whystay.com
This was her blog for today:
When things arent working out the way you want them to or when someone turns your world upside down an entire gamut of emotions are unleashed that you have to sort through and determine which ones serve your well being and which ones dig you deeper in a hole.
We typically want what we want when we want it and when we dont get it or when something or someone upsets our program we go into a resistance mode and we try and fight for what we want or worse, we try and control things.
One of the most difficult things to do is to accept what is and not waste your time resisting some situation or some person that you cant change. The only thing you can change is your mind. You can change your attitude about the person or situation but when you resist what is you allow negative energy in which pushes peace of mind out.
When you mentally resist anything you actually give it more power over you and the more you rehearse it in your mind and continually dwell on thoughts of anger, hatred, revenge, jealousy, etc. these exact thoughts will have a greater impact on how you feel than the actual circumstance or event.
Focusing your thoughts on why, what if, if only and reliving whatever it is that rocked your world not only makes you feel worse it keeps you mired in the past and does nothing in helping you to let go of it and move on.
Once you come to terms with the fact that it is what it is or they are who they are, then you will realize that no amount of your whining, crying, rehashing, moaning or self imposed grief and aggravation is ever going to make any difference.
So do yourself a favor and every time you start to go down that path and relive the stress or heartache, stop yourself in your tracks and release all of the garbage that goes along with holding onto things that you cant do anything about.
Know that it isnt the person or situation that is causing you to struggle, its your unwillingness to accept reality. The more you resist and fight reality the longer you torment yourself and you keep yourself stuck in a negative state of mind.
Its up to you as to whether you continually relive the past and let it eat you alive or whether you chalk it up to another one of lifes lessons and let it go and move on. Wishing things were different causes you needless suffering since you cant control people and things you can only control how youre going to react to them.
Life happens to all of us and we have a choice as to how we are going to look at things. Your perspective and how you choose to view what happens will determine how you will live your life going forward. So choose wisely!
Warmest wishes to a life well lived.Susan
AUTHOR SPEAKER- SUCCESS COACH
Susan Russo is President of Pinnacle Thought Inc. Publisher for books and resources which provide inspiration, self-empowerment and the tools and strategies to help move you toward personal success and fulfillment. Susan is the editor of "You've Got Power" newsletter and author of "There Is Life After What's-His-Name" and The 7 Keys to Unlock the Power Within You.
AndIm also a woman who has lived through all of the emotions, pain, and decisions that go along with ending a relationship. Because I knew I wasnt the only person who struggled with the pain of ending a relationship I decided to make a difference in others lives, and this book is the result of that passion.
I have lived and taught the principles in this book and I am now focused on communicating these principles to others, through my writings, speaking and coaching individuals.
If you are interested an email or phone consultation with Susan or if you would like to book her for a speaking engagement send an email to susan@whystay.co
Her web site is: http://www.whystay.com
This was her blog for today:
When things arent working out the way you want them to or when someone turns your world upside down an entire gamut of emotions are unleashed that you have to sort through and determine which ones serve your well being and which ones dig you deeper in a hole.
We typically want what we want when we want it and when we dont get it or when something or someone upsets our program we go into a resistance mode and we try and fight for what we want or worse, we try and control things.
One of the most difficult things to do is to accept what is and not waste your time resisting some situation or some person that you cant change. The only thing you can change is your mind. You can change your attitude about the person or situation but when you resist what is you allow negative energy in which pushes peace of mind out.
When you mentally resist anything you actually give it more power over you and the more you rehearse it in your mind and continually dwell on thoughts of anger, hatred, revenge, jealousy, etc. these exact thoughts will have a greater impact on how you feel than the actual circumstance or event.
Focusing your thoughts on why, what if, if only and reliving whatever it is that rocked your world not only makes you feel worse it keeps you mired in the past and does nothing in helping you to let go of it and move on.
Once you come to terms with the fact that it is what it is or they are who they are, then you will realize that no amount of your whining, crying, rehashing, moaning or self imposed grief and aggravation is ever going to make any difference.
So do yourself a favor and every time you start to go down that path and relive the stress or heartache, stop yourself in your tracks and release all of the garbage that goes along with holding onto things that you cant do anything about.
Know that it isnt the person or situation that is causing you to struggle, its your unwillingness to accept reality. The more you resist and fight reality the longer you torment yourself and you keep yourself stuck in a negative state of mind.
Its up to you as to whether you continually relive the past and let it eat you alive or whether you chalk it up to another one of lifes lessons and let it go and move on. Wishing things were different causes you needless suffering since you cant control people and things you can only control how youre going to react to them.
Life happens to all of us and we have a choice as to how we are going to look at things. Your perspective and how you choose to view what happens will determine how you will live your life going forward. So choose wisely!
Warmest wishes to a life well lived.Susan
It needs to be included in BUD (the new breakdups & divorce resource library) as many of us are still struggling to find our own "life after divorce"...
I really like this part:
"When you mentally resist anything you actually give it more power over you and the more you rehearse it in your mind and continually dwell on thoughts of anger, hatred, revenge, jealousy, etc. these exact thoughts will have a greater impact on how you feel than the actual circumstance or event...."
Thank you. :)
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I can relate to playing those tapes over and over in my head. I'm 1 1/2 year post divorce so it's not as bad as it was in the beginning, but this info can be applied to other things (and new relationships) that happen too.