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nightfire 01/27/2018

so im four months into my separation and my bipolar has been killing me. ive found out that my medicaid will pay for any healthcare related transports and ive found a therapist it covers, not having a car was worring me very much(we used my wifes) my first session is on the 1st and all this is great news right? well since my wife doesnt seem happy with it, im not too happy either. no matter whats happened between us, shouldnt you be happy over news like this?

Goffrey 01/27/2018

I went back and read some more about you and your separation story. I see a few things that sick out as possible answers to this question.

First, yes, in a perfect world someone who cares about you should be happy you're able to get the help you need. I'm happy for you and I don't even know you

But, man, you betrayed her trust for an extended period of time. You're not a sympathetic figure in her eyes anymore. I'm not saying that to have you feel bad, but put yourself in her shoes. She's probably messed up in the head over how you could do this to her. It sounds like she must have supported you and you shit on her. You justified this because of ED but it was you who made the choice to chat and share pics online.

I guess what I'm hinting at is that you really need the help you were just cleared to get, so instead of looking for excuses for your actions or support from the person you hurt. Go into therapy with a me first attitude, who gives a shit what she thinks of it right now, it's for you and only you. If you go into it with the real intention of taking responsibility for your actions and trying to learn from them you'll come out a better person and who knows how that might change your life. Don't waste the opportunity by looking for anyone else's approval.

movingon2016 01/27/2018

Good thoughts goffrey. Good luck to you nightfire. I hope it works out for you.

nightfire 01/27/2018

im not using the ed as an excuse, im trying to figure out why i did what i did, i honestly have no clue and to my wife thats not a good enough answer, but thank you guys, im looking forward to my first session

Cora_Belle 01/27/2018

"im trying to figure out why i did what i did, i honestly have no clue."

You honestly have no idea why you chose to repeatedly have inappropriate relationships with woman despite your wife's concerns and repeated requests that you stop?

I think it is more likely that you are still hoping to find an explanation for your selfish behavior that your wife will buy. So far, she ain't buying what you are selling.

Denial is not a river in Egypt.

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